how do you get over someone who you know is bad for you. and abuses you mentally. treats you like dirt. and has brought you down. you love them but you know they are wrong for you. but you can't seem to get over them. and you are also pregant with there child what do you do.
2007-03-27 08:40:49 · 14 answers · asked by Yumyum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You move on. It's hard but life does go on, trust me. It'll hurt like hell for awhile, then it will hurt less and less each day. I know how hard it is, I've been through it, that's how I know that it will not kill you. Go, learn from your mistakes and raise and love that baby. Good luck.
2007-03-27 08:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard especially because you are pregnant with his child but you have to cut yourself off from him emotionally and mentally. If he is not good for you and treats you like dirt then their is no telling how he will act towards the child.
I would not recommend trying to find someone new because that may only further complicate things, nor would I recommend you trying to put in effort to get back with your ex because that just might overwhelm you and stress you out, just focus on yourself and your unborn child and let GOD take care of everything else and everything will eventually fall into place.
Remember Love is not Suppose to Hurt
2007-03-27 15:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG this sounds like me....ummm 5 years ago when I first found out that I was pregnant. I just recently left him after 7 years of being with him it didn't get any better. I wished that I left him 5 years ago. You THINK that being together is better for the child, but it made things worst! I would have to protect my child from his verbal abusements.... eventhough we were "together" I basically raised our child by myself.
In conclusion, you're better off raising your child away from his negative surrounding. Not all kids get a positive outcome from it. Most from what I have seen adapt to it and learn how to be just like daddy!
2007-03-27 15:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of all the bad he's done to you...Think of all the tears & heart ache he has caused you...Then be happy that you don't have to deal with he's $hit anymore! Be happy for what you've got, such as your new coming baby boy/girl! Also, you really odd to demained child sapport! If he refuses to pay, then take his a$s to court! You need that money! Trust me, babies are a lot of over time! Oh & if he's a$s wants to try & get your baby boy/girl..You need to take he's punk a$s to court & explain to the judge what kind of pysical & mental abuse he has done to you! Let the judge know what a immature fu*k he is!
Just try looking at the positive side...fu*k the negative! With him included!
Good luck doll
& god bless
2007-03-27 15:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
START LOVING YOURSELF. You have to get your confidence back. Buy a new wardrobe, get your hair done, get in better physical shape, start going out, start dating (after the baby of course). You have to feel better about yourself. You have to KNOW that you deserve better and losing you was HIS lost. Revenge will be sweet when he see you looking better than ever and over him!!!
It may seem like the pain is never going to end. But, I promise you, one day you will wake up and wonder why you with him in the first place.
GOOD LUCK MY SISTA!
2007-03-27 15:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take their *** to court say i dont want my baby to be ment. abused like me from him but i can pay for all the stuff this baby is going to need alone. so he needs to pay to. let your self get mad stay away from him and the sub. then go out to a hot place and look at some guys Now just cuz you have a baby dont mean you cant get a man good guys wont care and thats what you want!
2007-03-27 15:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Rose W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds crash, but time heals all wounds, at least it's supposed to. The best thing to do is make yourself happy, and your happiness should not be determined by another person. I would try focusing on who I am, what I like, what makes me smile, my goals, and really try and immerse myself into pleasing me. I understand it is difficult since you are pregnant, but your life shouldn't stop because your relationship does.
2007-03-27 15:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lexi P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you are pregant by him you need to just be in his life for that baby but other then that you dont need him exspecially if he puts you down like that you can do better.i guess when you find someone better, trust me you will get over him
2007-03-27 15:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Angie C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to family and friends to help you.
And if he is abusive then you should probably get a restraining order.
But besides that I think family and friends will be able to help you out the most
2007-03-27 15:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was easy to answer until the pregnancy part.
But honestly, I don't know. One should try not to get pregnant from a bad guy.
2007-03-27 15:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tayfun T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋