My husband and I are moving. The place we were going to take was not ready and we r staying with my father in law for 9 days. I have cleaned made lunch for him & hubby to take to work, food shoped, as well as make dinner every night. My father in law is a misirable man. He complains from the minute he awakes until he goes to bed. Also looks to start a fight between me and my husband. The problem is I can not stand living with him. He smells and is discusting + cheap. (if he runs to get coffe he don't ask if anyone else wants any but if you go you need to bring him one) My husband and I will be looking for a house to buy soon. His father wants to live with us. I told my husband no way this was an eye opener. I think we should not say anything and when we move just not ask him to come. He is not ill nor needs to live with anyone. He wanted to move in not to be alone and have something to complain about. My husband feels guilty since we stayed for 9 days.
2007-03-27 08:40:38 · 5 answers · asked by Kat G 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's a good thing you found out what your father in law is like now, instead of later.
I would just move out when the time comes. If your father in law asks to move with you, you can let him know that while he's welcome to visit from time to time, and call if he needs something, you think he does a WONDERFUL job of taking care of himself. You could say you feel he needs to continue his independence because it likely contributes to better health and well-being for HIM. (just make a BIG DEAL of how great it is that he's so independent, and what good it's doing him!)
just a thought... do you think it would fly?
take care, and good luck finding a nice, new home!
2007-03-27 09:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, the quickest way to bust up a marriage is to live with the in-laws. So if you and your husband truly love each other make other arrangements for his Dad, before you are ready to move otherwise he will just move in with you and your husband might not do anything about it, because he will feel guilty leaving him behind.
2007-03-27 08:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground and say NO,I refuse to live with my in-laws,not because I don't love them because I do,even though they do grate on my nerves,But when you live with in-laws they are going to be in the middle of your life 24/7 and anything that used to be between you and your husband now involves them to because of the simple fact that he is their son,As for your father in law,If your husband decides he just can't move without his dear old dad,Then you sit them both down and confront them about any and all attitude problems,and tell them that you expect everyone in the house to be treated as equals,DO NOT let his dad run over top of you,it will just turn into a never ending viscious cycle,If you want to talk further about it send me an IM sometime
2007-03-27 08:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Katie Robinson 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
9 days is hardly a reason to feel guilty enough to have him move in with you. he probably is just a lonely, crabby old man who thinks being mean is the only way he'll get what he wants. when a house becomes available just say thank you and move.
2007-03-27 09:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your FIL move in! That would be the worst mistake you could ever make.
2007-03-27 10:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋