Well a relative in the family died recently and I went to his funeral and his casket was open so I saw his face. When I'm at the funeral, I tend to stay away from the casket I guess because being near a dead person makes me uncomfortable then they're buried. After they're buried, you regret not getting near them to say good bye. How do you do deal with being uncomfortable around the deceased so you can say goodbye before it's too late?
2007-03-27 08:37:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't have to be at the casket to say good bye. I buried both my parents and the last way I want to remember them is in the casket. No rule says you have to go up to the casket. Say goodbye your own way, with your favorite image of that person in your head.
2007-03-27 08:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by biscuitperifrank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a position where you feel you must go to the casket, prepare by thinking of happy times with that person, when they were alive. When you step forward to pay your respects, take a moment to pray and thank them for those memories. If you simply cannot go to the casket, which many people cannot, don't feel badly. Simply sit where you are and think about those nice times when that person was alive, or perhaps talk with others at the funeral home, sharing memories together with them. I hope this helps. Have a great day.
2007-03-27 15:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lotsofwords 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather remember people alive and not their dead body in a casket. They always look strange - people will say Oh, don't they look good or don't they look natural - well, hell no they don't look good or natural they look all pasty from the thick makeup that they've put on them to try to make them look not dead but it doesn't work.
To say goodbye, go to a place that was special to the person that's passed on - preferably a place that was special to the two of you - and have some quiet time. Think about them, how much you loved them, how much fun you had with them, go ahead and have a cry but try to have a laugh to when you remember the good times.
2007-03-27 17:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the time to say good by is BEFORE the death I myself do not go to the veiwing, and will wait until the casket is closed to enter the chapel I would rather remember what was, than be left with a visual of what is no longer I do not attend funerals unless it is a family obligation
2007-03-27 16:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like dead bodies. Even close family and friends. I like to remember them as they were. NOT in the casket. I understand how you feel.
2007-03-27 17:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you afraid of? that's your problem. you just have to make yourself go up to the casket and say good bye- you don't have to touch them or anything.
2007-03-27 15:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to say goodbye! You don't have to view the body.The person is no longer there anyway,it's just a shell. Do it however you're comfortable.
2007-03-27 15:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by dog8it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't like the dead are gonna do anything... if you aren't comfortable, don't go!!! :D
2007-03-27 15:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋