How do I keep from seeming desperate?

Question

I would like to have a social life, I can't lie. But I am at a university where there are about 3 girls for every guy. And the guys are dirt poor or cheap and don't date because of it. I don't mind paying, I love planning fun things, I'm not looking for a serious relationship, but I fear that if I ask guys out, even on group dates, that I'll seem desperate. Opinions? Suggestions? Advice? Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

Pick a guy you like. Offer to make him dinner and rent a good movie. Maybe do it on a weeknight so you can use the excuse that you have to get up in the morning if things are not going the way you want.

Another idea: Go out and buy a pair of movie passes and tell your lucky guy that "I just got these 2 movie passes, would you like to go?" Make him buy the popcorn and sodas.
If he asks, just tell him someone gave you the passes.(the cashier did, right after you paid for them. Leave that part out.)

OK, one more idea. Pack a lunch. Add an extra sandwich, a slightly bigger bag of chips, a litre of soda (instead of just a can), and a cupcake or big cookie. Again, carefully choose the lucky guy, sit right down next to him, and offer to share your lunch. The cupcake/cookie thing? Unlike the sandwich,et al., there is only one dessert. Sharing it with him is special.

Remember that it is an honor for him to be able to spend time with a beautiful girl, and he should act appropriately. With the ratio of women to men there so out of balance, he may have forgotten this. You are not desperate, you are choosy with whom you'll go out. He better appreciate you or you can look elsewhere for a guy, and there are guys out there who will treat you right.

One question for you. Where were you when I was in school?

Answer 2

Don't "ask anyone out" - just place yourself in fun social, or educational settings where you might make some new friends first. Some of the very best relationships come from being a friend to someone first. If things naturally move on from there - terrific - and enjoy such a gift. In the meantime, you won't need to feel embarrassed or bad about yourself. You are young - have fun, learn things. Love comes along when you least expect it. Have a great day!

Answer 3

just dont go any were that it costs money go to the park to do work with them! or even better! OMG i just thought of this. ok you want a guy near by right and a good one. soooo go to a food place that has guys your age working. hang there (order to so they know you dont starve your self like so many girls) then have one of your girls call and pretend to get real bad new from your vet "your dog at home didnt make it" dont ball just look sad when he comes by wip some pretend tears from your face and say sorry befor you answer. if he is a good guy he will ask whats wrong and BING you two start talking then if he sug.s some thing leave after a bit then two days later go back and say thank you it helped a lot. and ask him out!!!!

Answer 4

first of all we can 'thank' women's lib for stressing college for girls and leaving the guys in the dust, educationallly-of course this would be their agenda--to throw many girls togther.
Having said that. I would suggest you look elsewhere, don't pay for dates, why in this world should you pay to take a man out?? Trust me, it IS desperate. I know girls are throwing themselves at guys today, sex free dinners etc., and what do they reap? the guilt of an abortion. All the guys are laughing about it. Get a job somehwere, mabey in a high scale rest, you could meet someone, and this way you know they aren't poor. The guys at college aren't poor either-they simply do not spend thier money on the women, we lived in a college town, Prov. R.I. [Brown University, R.I.S.D. etc]. I know the guys consider the girls to be whores and have zero respct for them, and shouldn't they?? be a girl with integrity--this is my advise to you, do not be a desperato. Better to be alone for awhile and have self respect. Some time put on a dress and heels and cruise the museums, you never know kiddo.

Answer 5

Don't ask guys out. Whatever the reason they aren't asking you (and other girls out) that's their problem. Hang out with your girlfriends and other guys who are friends, but don't ask a guy out on a date - group or otherwise. Men ask women out, women go and men pay. That's the way God intended and it's the only way things have a real "balance" in a relationship. Besides, most guys would be put off if you ask and offer to pay anyway, then you'll be humiliated and still have no date.

Answer 6

Trust me honey, guys dont take that into consideration. If a girl were to ask me out, I would love it! same goes for most guys. It takes the pressure off us, and best of all that's how i know the girl is interested in me. then I can relax and be my self, instead of trying to constantly impress the girl. (which i am sure gets annoying to you girls as well) But your University sounds like heaven!!! Where do you go to school?

Answer 7

Find a good man outside of the university who will pay. Cheap and selfish men are not worth the effort. A rich / poor, generous man is what you want.

Answer 8

I love it when the girl asks.Actually,all the guys I know do.Especially if they're kind of quiet.There are those who have a control issue,but most guys would be glad the pressure's off of them.

Answer 9

well if the guys are poor, you dont alsways have to pay for them...thats kinda desperate...you could just ask a guy to hangout and go for a walk. walks are always free

Answer 10

Don't worry about what they will think. Most guys like it when the ladies take charge every once in a while anyways!

Good Luck !

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