2007-03-27 08:26:06 · 56 answers · asked by Shelby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're not ready to get married if this is a serious question.
2007-03-27 08:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question is sad. You are not ready to be married if this thought even crosses your mind, much less are considering it! This is why so many marriages fail, people dont take it serisouly and think they can have a "fling", and then what happens? They have a "fling" when they are married also. I feel really bad for your FI, you shouldn't have said yes to begin with if you are honestly asking this.
2007-03-27 09:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are even thinking about it then you should not get married. The person you are going to marry should be enough for you. Lets say you do have one last fling what if that is not enough. You keep having them. You either to put a stop to the marriage or stop thinking of flings.
2007-03-27 08:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole Z 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you planning a wedding anyway?You're not ready to get married if you're planning one last fling.
I'd be cancelling the wedding and having as many flings as you want till the right time comes and it's out of your system.
Be fair to your fiance and tell him it's off.How would he feel if he knew what was going on in that head of yours?This is NO way to start a marriage so do what's right.
2007-03-27 08:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly normal to be thinking that you may need to get things out of your system. But getting cold feet and actually doing it is a different story. I have to agree with everyone else on that. If you do decide that having a fling is a must, then a wedding is definitly not.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-27 08:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by MARYKAYLADY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is making you ask this question? I've been with my b/f for 4+ yrs and would NEVER ask if I should have a "fling". He is a very good lover to me so perhaps that is it. You man may be great in all the other catagories...but not so great in the bed. My g/f dated a guy like that for 2+ yrs. I kept telling her to leave him...shouldn't stay with a person you can't be faithful to. They broke up finally, she is happier now than ever. Thnk about it. You shouldn't be even wondering about a fling...
2007-03-27 08:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually when you commit yourself to be engaged to someone, the thought of all the "last Flings" are thrown out of your head. It's obvious if you are thinking about having one, anytime during the relationship that feeling can arise. Be careful, and don't ruin a good think for a few minutes of excitement. That too shall pass. Be committed and true to your partner. He loves you enough to want to marry you.
2007-03-28 06:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by BigSexxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously contemplating such an excursion than you are not ready to get married. I've been with my bf for almost 4 years and we will be getting married in may of 2010. I could never envision myself being with someone else shortly before we were supposed to get married. You should reassess your feelings for your fiance and consider whether your relationship is worth ruining over a little fling. best of luck
2007-03-27 09:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by jessicamichelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the concern, and if you truly love the person you are marring you wouldn't be able to have a fling. It will not straighten your relationship or commitment to them. It will not give you piece of mind. All a fling will do is give you an excuse to back out of the wedding, and your fiance a reason to doubt your commitment.
2007-03-27 08:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by thesunshineking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get it out of your system?
Wow.
If you are in love with this person and want to marry him forever, then you wouldn't need one last fling. That's like saying you need one last cigarette before you stop smoking. Kind of silly if you ask me. Would you also like your fiancee to have a last fling?
2007-03-27 08:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. What you should is call off the wedding. If you are asking this question, then you are not sure that you are marrying the love of your life. If there is something in your system that you can't get out with him alone, he is not the one.
2007-03-27 08:51:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋