What am i going to do about my father?

Question

i am a 14 year old boy just to get that out of the way. throughout my childhood my father has been the most important thing in the world to me. especially since my mother abused me to the point that he called the cops. our relationship was perfect until i turned 13. then we started butting heads on several different things. now that im 14 its gone from butting heads to the police being called and threats on my life. me and my father have had very serious and heated arguments in the last year. one of the biggest was 2 days ago. that started by me complaining to my mother that i didn,t want to get the groceries from outside because i had a torn ACL and couldn,t do well on the steps. every time me and my father argue he is drunk. this is one of those times. after talking to my mother i said i don,t want to talk about it anymore. i go to my room. he follows me in there and we start arguing. in the argument he tells me to get out of his house and threatens to kill me. this is normal.

Answer 1

Hon, this is not normal. Substance abuse does terrible things to people. I know your dad wouldn't act like this if it weren't for the drinking. You need to talk to him when sober... if you can find a time, and if not him, your mom, or a counselor. Let them know that you know this is only because of the drinking and that your dad needs help. An intervention will make him mad for a while, but in the end, he will be a better person for it, and you will have your dad back.

Answer 2

This is not normal. Unfortunately it's very common with households these days. Your father is an alcoholic and could turn very dangerous if you continue to argue with him when he's in that state of mind. I understand that you are 14 and it's hard not to be able to express yourself when your parents do wrong by you. You need to find some friends who you might be able to stay with when your dad is drinking like that. You do not have to stay in that unsafe situation. If you feel threatened that your father may act on his threat, call the police. Don't worry about how that might make him feel, you are going to be helping him by having someone detain him. Thank you and may GOD bless.

Answer 3

Honestly...if you don't want to live there anymore you need to find a way out...I was in a similar situation...well I am in one...my mother will follow me into a room and keep arguing and she goes psycho...she's bipolar...and i want to get out...but for the fact that I only have a year until I graduate...I can handle...I've handled it this last 17 years...but you need to maybe find somewhere else to stay or live...or if it gets serious one night and you've finally had enough...you need to call the cops...and try to get out...try to stay with family or friends because what I've heard about foster homes and girls and boys homes isn't good...good luck and stay safe

Answer 4

Two roosters in the same house are bound to fight from time to time, especially when one of them is just coming into the age where he's developing his own personality in to adulthood and the other has a drinking problem. (Getting drunk = problem.) Threatening to kill you is very bad, though and you should talk to a school counsellor or something about that as soon as you can.

Answer 5

omg im so sry about ur dad. I to WAS abused. but it was from my dad. it was horrible and it still is. just so u know i know exactly how u feel right now. u tink tht know one understands. and u dont understand how someone you thought loved and cared for you could treat you such a horrible way. it's very painful wht ur goin through. and all i can say is, i would run away. you dont deserve wht ur goin through. maybe run away to a family's house or a really close freind.

Answer 6

You should talk to him when he's sober and tell him how much he's scaring you by him threatening to kill you.