Opinions on stay at home moms?

Question

Ive noticed that mostly women who work are down on STAY AT HOME MOMS. WHY? Whether they believe it or not, we dont just sit at home watching tv and eating. Most of us who do stay home have kids to work with. I just think they are jealous b/c they cant stay home. So, why do they think they have a right to b i t c h when we are the ones who sit home and Clean house, do laundry plus deal with the kids ALL DAY. Oh and usually we work every day. No weekend, no holidays..and we dont get paid for what we do. So why do you think you have a right to complain about us.

Im curious to what everyone think of those moms who stay home and clean house, do laundry, cook 3 meals a day plus takes care of her kids. You know, the mom who isnt LAZY! What do you think of her. I dont get to sit down but like 1-3 times a day for a short period and usually then i am working with my oldest on ABC's or something.

So ladies who complain, why do you complain and others what do you think of us?

Gotta love the smart A S S E S on here! I am not insulting women who choose to work, more power to them. But i do want to know WHY people without kids and people, mostly women who work choose to insult women who choose to stay home with the kids. I mean seriously, how narrow minded can people get!

Yes, its GREAT and i wouldnt give it up for anything but if i didnt have kids i would be working with the rest of you but oh, how funny, you would then think i am a hard working person!

So, what the difference between being a full time wife and mom compare to a full time employee. THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE.

People need to open there minds and realize this! NONE OF US ARE BETTER THAN THE OTHERS!

LMFAO...get to stay pretty all the time. I usually just throw my hair up, rarely wear make up but would love to...and why bother dressing nice...i just clean house and take care of some kids. You obvisouly have NO KIDS and arent married! Once you have kids, it doesnt work that way until they get a little older than mine.

Answer 1

I am a stay at home mom also and beleive me nothing gives me more pleasure than being my own boss, watching my child grow- feed and bathe him, make time to take care of me also...and my husband! Being a mother and wife is that hardest job in the world because you are constantly on your feet, and whearas we dont get paid for it, as in money- we get the greatest payment of all.... Satisfaction! Just to see your children grow, to see your house clean, to smell the food in the kitchen and know that your husband and kids are going to appreciate- thats satisfaction! God bless Stay at home moms!!!

Answer 2

I think you have worked yourself into quite a frenzy. It is rude to make a statement about anyone regarding their choice in this area based on which side they chose. There are some excellent reasons for being working moms and there are some excellent reasons for being stay at home moms. As women we need to support each other and not look for ways to be divisive.

You do deserve respect for being a stay at home mom and I applaud your efforts. I don't think anyone that has spent even a weekend with their children would say that your occupation is anything less than a huge challenge.

However it is equally challenging to hold down a job and try to get the house clean and chores done on the weekend while attempting to give the children the attention they deserve.

I was a stay at home mom for over 20 years and launched two wonderful children into the world where they are self supporting and function beautifully in the world around them both are parents both work. I applaud their choices they know their needs better than I do.

After my children were raised I took a full time job and worked hard and enjoyed that too. I applaud women who do that. Liberation was meant to allow people the freedom to be involved in either arena with mutual respect and dignity.
Don't look for what is wrong with each other just try to support each other's choices and by all means afford each other a modicum of dignity and respect.

Good luck honey you have a very difficult full time job. I hope you're feeling better.

Answer 3

When my husband became diagnosed with cancer, i no longer had the choice of being a stay at home mom. My income was the only income coming in for the 8 months he lived after the diagnosis. Because of my husbands illness I also had to work come home clean my house take care of my dying husband and comfort and care for my children. I was a Secretary by day, by night 7 days a week I was a cook a nurse a maid a Dr. a psychologist, plumber, carpenter, accountant, school teacher, pharmacist etc.

Please do not say that all woman that work are jealous and complain about stay at home moms all the time. I had my time at being a stay at home mom, and yes it is hard, but the reward even now with my husband being gone is seeing that my children are happy well adjusted children who will succeed in life.

i don't have time as a working mom and 7 day a week no breaks with anything mom to worry about the stay at home moms, I just enjoy my time with my children and savor the rare quite times.

Answer 4

Whether you're a stay at home Mom or Dad, you have a full time with taking care of the house. I think the house runs a lot smoother when there is somebody attending to it constantly. I love it when I don't have to work and make money out side of the home, that is why I have taken to making money and still staying at home, I can tend to the household duties in between working. I don't really think people are jealous about not being able to stay at home instead of working, but maybe they regret that they are not in the financial position to do so. It's nice if you can be with your kids before they get to school age. Give them as much time as you can, even if you're exhausted, they really need the attention!

I think also that there is a valid point to disagreeing with people who stay at home and do not work for money, but that is only in the case that they are always asking for handouts and charity. If they are able to work for money and not able to pay the bills, then corrections need to be made to that scenario.

Answer 5

I don't know ANYBODY that does laundry every day and cooks three meals a day and cleans the house every day. But then, I've never known any stay-at-home spouses.

To those that say it's a 24/7 job, do your spouses help out at all? If my girlfriend (if/when we ever decided to get married or have children) wanted to stay home with the kids, then it's only an 8-5 job for her until I came home. I don't understand why you feel you have to do everything yourself (unless your spouse refuses to help out at ALL, which is another issue altogether), so it should never take all day.

Hear that? It would only be her job during the daytime when I'm at work, after that it would be BOTH our jobs and BOTH our responsibilities. As a working dad, I wouldn't get paid for the housework I do either.

That said, I don't have problems with stay-at-home moms/dads, I just acknowledge that I don't get why they say it's a 24/7 job.

I have little respect for stay-at-home wives/husbands, they're just too ******* lazy to get a job and think they're better because their spouse makes so much money that they don't HAVE to work.

Answer 6

Hi...

I was a stay at home mom for a few years, but worked for most of my parenting years....

It was difficult keeping up with everything when i worked, and i had to hire someone occasionally to help with the housework. I never looked down upon stay at home moms during the time i worked outside of the home.

I enjoyed it when i stayed home with the kids, and i kept very busy. I had hobbies (still do) and enjoyed my flower and vegetable gardens. I felt as if i had quite a lot more freedom, than when i was working. It IS a full time job keeping up with children and a home. the biggest "problem" i had when i stayed home was the lack of a social life, but i did try to get out with friends and have small parties and get-togethers.

I've never met anyone who said bad things about stay at home moms. You said, "I've noticed that mostly women who work are down on STAY AT HOME MOMS. WHY?" In my 50 years of life, i've never noticed this at all, and haven't heard complaints.

You're fortunate to be able to make the choice to stay at home. I was single for many of my parenting years, so didn't have that option.

Enjoy your family, take care of YOU, and don't worry about what others might think.... nothing matters but what YOU think! all the best!

Answer 7

I am a working mom and has always been. Though I can never be one as my personality is just not made to stay at home, I have a lot of good thoughts for the SAHM.

I envy the time they are able to spend with their kids that I don't have.

I respect them for all the hard work they do to keep their kids, their homes and most of all their husbands.

I think their kids are lucky to have their mom attend to their needs at all times and handle their issues first hand.

God know I can not be a stay at home mom though I have always wanted to be. Every time I am on a 3-month maternity leave, I crave my interaction with other people outside of my family.

We all have different choices on what does and does not work for us in our lives. We should not look down or mock other people for the choices they make because it works for them.

Best,

G

Answer 8

I think stay at home moms are a good thing. On that note, stay at home dads are great as well. I stay at moms are great for children as well as the community. When one or the other parent stays home, the children usually do better in school and social life. You provide a valuable service to the community. More and more these days both parents are forced to work. Unfortunately this takes time away from raising our children. Because we have to work, we rely on the schools and day cares to raise our kids. I think they is a misconception in our society about stay at home moms. The whole womens lib thing put a crazy spin on stay at home moms. You aren't supposed to stay home now. They want you to hit the work force and show those men whats going on. But I disagree with them. I think you should stay home and be with your children and help raise them in this crazy society. I am proud of you. Way to go mom.

John

Answer 9

There were only a couple of negative answers to your question.

(BTW, I have no kids.)

Anyway, I, too, wonder who all these women are that rag on SAHMs. I've never known any.

I've known a lot of women who had to work that wish they could be home with their kids, and feel ragged out with the burden of an outside job and taking care of house and home.

And I've known women that simply can't not work an outside job, as they need the being away from the house and interacting with grown-ups, or because they love their jobs too much. But I've never known them to rag on SAHMs, they say it's rightly a decision people (couples) need to make for themselves.

So, where are you hearing women rank on SAHMs? Are you sure they're out there?

Oh, yeah, a few, but it's hardly the vast majority -- just a few clueless people. No matter what anyone does, there are a few clueless people who will complain.

I'm inclined to agree with those who said that this is an overblown issue, and most women who work have nothing against SAHMs.

In all the questions on this topic I've seen on this site, for example, most jobbed women say they wish they could stay home, but can't afford it.

I've seen very few negative comments.

I've seen much more hostility (from both men and women) toward women who work outside the home -- they're told they're selfish and are destroying civilization and don't love their kids.

The Stay At Homes who really get it are the men -- a lot of people really don't get that choice, and feel free to criticize it.

Answer 10

I think nuturing a child is the most important job there is. Why hand over the raising of your child to some stranger who may not embrace the same life values as you do? I AM jealous, however... if I had the means, I would LOVE to be a stay-at-home mom. Did you hear about the study where someone actually calculated, based on all the jobs a stay-at-home performs, what the position would be worth dollar-wise? It's more than a CEO's wages.