I was with this girl for 8 months, we had a really strong safe relationship, then last week we decided it wasnt as good as it used to be, and we werent as happy with one another....so we split up smoothly!
Then today she txted me saying i dont want you to go mad with what im going to say, but please text me back after i tell you...i was like right....i didnt have any credit so i gave her a quick bell to see what was up.
She told me that she is going out with her best mate now, i acted fine with it and that i didnt mind, i was happy for her.
But i have to say, i dont think it will last, i dont think hes boyfriend material, bit of a goon! lol, i know it prob sounds like im just jelouse but everyone thinks the same...
How do i make her realise she has made a mistake? im sending her a little somthing for easter in the post, with a note saying hope everfing is well etc....will this go down well??
Thanks for reading
2007-03-27 08:20:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By moving on and be indifferent
2007-03-27 08:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by DAD_to_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being nice is fine, but offering advice on a relationship with someone you just ended it with is a no, no!! Furthermore, you can't make her see the error of her ways, if they are in fact errors. You must understand we all see things differently and no matter how much we may see it ending badly people have to go through things for themselves. The best thing you can do for her, if you're truly a friend, is be there to help pick up the pieces if she needs you. Don't pass judgment because that's not your place. Part of being a friend is sometimes just being quiet and then helping out in the end without the "I told you so!" Let it be and move on.
2007-03-27 08:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is this "best mate" has probably been working your girl for a while. He's been the little voice in her ear slowly creating a wedge to separate you two until he finally gets his chance. Most girls are exceedingly needy. In her head she has been painted this picture of a failing relationship and he was the catalyst, as well as a solution she became comfortable with. In order to show her she has made a mistake you will need to outline this to her. She needs to realize that her best mate was simply using his position for seduction. tell her that maybe you may not have been the best choice as a boyfriend, be he certainly is a fluke, a phony, a sham, a Fulgaise. Trust Me....I have done the exact same when seducing some of my women that started out as a friend....i good scheme for sure!!!
2007-03-27 08:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey what's Up?
I think that you are being really mature by letting her doo her own thing and not getting involved....it's nice that you will send her somethng for easter unless you get over possessive, romantic or something like that.....
You should try and understand that she has moved on and i bet there's a few girls with their eyes on you....If she really likes this guy and you care about her as much as you say then you should be happy for her and let her do her thing....
If on the other hand this guy is really not boyfriend material then sooner or later she will realise for herself and she'll probable need a shoulder to cry on , or just someone to chat with...Who better than you???
Don't ruin your chances by being rude or doing something stupid just let her know that you are still there for her.........
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-27 08:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by cream_b_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. Ignore the fact that this hurts. Dont make comment about the new guy to her it will make it worse. Actually be her friend if you want and that might make the other guy look like a jerk if he says something. Remember you brok up for some reason. SOunds like she was about this other guy befor! Better be careful. DOnt let yourself get hurt. There other people out there that are exactly what you want. Shes not going to change so dont wish her to. Ms Perfect is out there so get to looking. Give youself some time to be yourself, hang with friends that kinds of stuff befor you get into someone elses life. You have to love yourself befor you can love someone else.
2007-03-27 08:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by lowclearence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send her anything, don't give her advice (she won't listen anyway) she left you, obviously a good guy, for a goof who is probably the bad boy type and all he has going for him is being good in bed (sorry). Eventually she'll realize her mistake on her own, but by then, hopefully it will be too late because you'll be with a good woman who knows how to appreciate a good man. Good luck - and leave the trash for the trash man.
2007-03-27 08:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not together why did she feel the need to tell you she was dating someone else? Just to hurt you? You should stay out of it. She will think you're just being a "hater" because she is with someone else. You seem confident that won't work so why don't you just stand back and watch the fireworks.
2007-03-27 08:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" anyone realize anything.
All you can do is see whether she eventually realizes it herself.
Yes, a nice neutral note is fine, to let her know you're still a friend.
But don't ever try to tell her the guy's a goon, or anything else. That will just make her want to defend him.
2007-03-27 12:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...most people don't realize what they've had till it's all gone my friend...and I don't believe for a minute she ain't thinking about you alternatively. Give her a chance to feel the heat of her own decision partner. She is allowed to make her own choices for herself otherwise. Understand you have choices and decisions to make for yourself too. Be courteous,...be kind to her when you see her. She'll eventually see the waywardness of her decisions...then again...no guarantees! Be glad when things do go well for ya though partner. Not everybody on earth gets everything they want...not even your ex girlfriend.
2007-03-27 08:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make her realise anything. just get over her and move on. let her mess up her own life. that is very nice of you to send her something in the mail, however dont do it if you are just trying to get her back. get over her. you two broke up for a reason and i'm sure that reason hasn't changed.
2007-03-27 08:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shell probably think that you are jealous, but just tell her. If it really is a mistake, shell come to realize it.
2007-03-27 08:31:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋