On weekends since my hubby is off I asked him to at least give me 1 day off a week and help me change and bathe our baby. i do this 7 x a week and i feel tired and burnt out. i know he works mon-fri but at least on weekends how much should my hubby help me with our baby?? i do 100% cooking and cleaning and it does not bother me at all cuz i have a scedule mon, wed and fri are my big cleaning days plus take care of the baby and cook. tue n thurs are my pick up and straighten plus cook n baby care. i told my hubby i would appreciate it if u could help me without me asking...when i ask on sat or sun he usually says no. but i feel with him being daddy he should help and at least let me leep 1 hour in on a sun morning and i told him i will let him sleep in 1 hour on sat morning to be fair since weekends are the only time we can sleep in maybe an hour. i just feel tired real tired . how much is expected for a hubby to help out with his baby and household tasks what should he help with?
2007-03-27 08:12:06 · 22 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm at work and my wife's at home with the baby, when I come home I take over, I'll bathe her if necessary, feed her, put her to bed, etc. And on weekends I give my wife a rest and pretty much take care of the baby all weekend. Somethings she likes to do for the baby anyway so she will do it whether I'm there or not but I like taking care of my daughter
2007-03-27 08:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being an idiot. Your job is just as hard as his, yet he expects that he should just get two days off while you get none. Thats a load of crap. I change plenty of diapers (of course, my kids are aged 5 ,4 ,1 ,4months, and one in utero, so there are PLENTY of diapers to change).
I also do at least about 2/3 of the cooking. My wife cleans, does the laundry, and stays home with the kids.
When we have one that does not sleep through the night, we share the weekend duty, too.
It's a team effort.
Having a family takes a joint effort.
2007-03-27 10:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has helped me change my son and bath him and that's cause hes in the military and works Monday-Friday and sometimes has weekends or 12 hour shifts. The only time he didn't really do it was in the beginning because he'd never been around babies before so he was afraid to hurt our son..lol. Now thought I don't have to ask especially since I'm pregnant and can't really be bending over the tub without back pain..lol. I think your husband should help you. Most men don't like to consider a house wife as working but they don't realize that it's hard to keep the house clean and take care of a family.
2007-03-27 08:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
make sure you print out these answers and show hubby, we have 5 children, my husband works from 6am til sometimes 8 pm, he changes as many diapers as i do, he baths are children, so do i, we just grab a kid, he helps feed, on weekend mornings when he does not have a side job, he gets up and makes breakfast and lets me sleep, to wake me with coffee and a hug, i feel grateful, but he sees it that i have the hardest job in the world, we work together, we are at the point we don't even have to speak about what we are doing, things just go along whatever needs to be done who ever is closest does it, i am sorry that your hubby does not see things this way, you work very hard at the hardest job of the year, changing a few diapers is nothing , tell him to go ten months with someone inside of you, i think my husband enjoys caring for our children, it's a good way to get close to your kids, you have too much on your plate he needs to help out
2007-03-27 09:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby is an equal responsibility. I would think he would want to help even if just to bond with the baby. I helped my wife and got up on the weekends with the baby so she could sleep in at least a day or two. Sometimes he only wanted her, but I tried. Bonding and helping out are important and if you feel overwhelmed tell him. Being stressed out is not good for you or the baby.
2007-03-27 08:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by v0ice0freez0n 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im gonna answer this one for you and make sure my husband comes back to answer this one.
He didnt change much diaper when the baby was small, but as he got bigger he did help me cause he knew it was too much for me doing everything in the house plus stop doing things to change a diaper,when he was there and available to do it.
I dont have any complaints about my husband, he has always cleaned the bathroom, pass vaccum, knows how to cook simple meals when i want a break ... he has stayed up till dawn when my son had sleeping problems...
2007-03-27 09:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by mom_princess77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dad's just don't get it. They don't get all the work that comes along with being mommy. We don't ever get a break and it s hard for us to just jump in the car and go do what we want. Our responsibility just keeps growing and growing. I think any help you ask for is fair. It keeps us sain and it seems like you really have things together. THere are lots of women out there who do nothing so he should appreciate all that you do!
Good job mom!
PS he didn't complain when making the baby, so he should help you out. I think you are being more than fair.
2007-03-27 08:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my hubby works full time in the Army and when he gets home he takes over baby duty, except feeding and poopy diapers. He bathes both of our kids before bed. He also takes out the garbage and loads or unloads the dishwasher...So I would say your hubby is lazy and inconsiderate
2007-03-27 08:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Robyn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being reasonable. Your husband should want to help seeing it is his baby. Lets be realistic here most guys just don't think they should help out. It's wrong I know but that's why GOD blessed kids with mothers. They would be lost without us. Let him know that you're feeling overwhelmed and it would be nice if he could help out at least on the weekends. Good luck.
2007-03-27 08:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id have a few choice words for your hubby.........My husband helps out with our little girl since birth he also helps me with the house work...I think a relationship is a 50/50 thing.....I'm sorry but its 2007 ,,,yes he may work out of the home 5 days aweek but you work 7 days of the week.....you work hard too and YOU need a break....Time to set him straight.....come on dad get your hands dirty..........lol
2007-03-27 09:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Twiggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋