me and my ex broke up but we both still have feelings for each other. He makes me happy but it seems like he's a distraction in my life. i ended the relationship and he's already asked to get back together-3 times. is happiness worth being distracted and not having my priorities straight?
2007-03-27 08:10:12 · 9 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not worth the hassle of trying to change a person, but you never know, maybe he's changed of his own accord... try things with him just one more time
2007-03-27 08:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by lexie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everything healthy would stem from having your own happiness and security because that is the foundation you will bring with you to any relationship you will make. If you always try to "make someone a better person", you are merely trying to enforce what you believe is right or better. I think if you are happy and secure you will automatically encounter much of the same towards others, then you guys can mutually help each other be better people for each other's happiness. If you feel hes more of a distraction, and you don't think you guys can solve anything, then it's probably better that you guys stay apart. Whichever way, always follow your heart and beliefs! Goodluck!
2007-03-27 15:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have to be happy in a relationship, and you cannot ever change someone to "make" them a better person. If you both still have feelings for each other, then it's worth being in a relationship, but you have to take personal time for yourselves. Spending all your time together and not taking time out is not healthy. You have to make sure you are doing all the things you need to get done, even if that means you spend less time together. Time away makes you miss each other too. :)
2007-03-27 15:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by asdf970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned a long time ago, that you cannot change a man. A person will only change if that change comes from deep within. You must take care of you, because no-one will take care of you BUT YOU. Do what you have to do keep your priorities straight and stay focused!! Good Luck.
2007-03-27 15:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by bossfemale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to fit a relationship in your life. I can not imagine what kind of relationship or career your planning on having that you can't fit it all in.
Also my relationships with my family have always taken top priority.
To have a relationship is distracting but to not have a relationship can also become all consuming.
2007-03-27 15:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by granny_sp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your priorities together first, but if you love him, you should be with him. It shouldn't be "work" or "a job" making him a better person, it should come naturally. Always better yourself. I know that sounds selfish but until you know who you are and what you want, you can't give your all to this guy.
2007-03-27 15:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be happy, that should be your number one priority!
2007-03-27 15:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can make him 'a better person' then you are completely WHACKED!
Work on yourself and tell him he can keep up or get left behind.
2007-03-27 15:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your happiness and security....
2007-03-27 15:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋