I broke up with this one girl around thanksgiving, a little after that (maybe a week) we started doing things as friends, we have now spent every friday for the past four months together at the least usually we see get together just the two of us at least two or three times a week and talk on the phone for a couple of hrs on all the other nights.
I'm finding i made a huge mistake by breaking up with her, and i honestly think shes amazing and i really like her.
I was wondering what i should do,
2007-03-27 08:07:49 · 25 answers · asked by phenomona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I asked her out and
she said she can't, just right now she is afraid of relationships (both her best friends boyfriend is cheating and i'm sure i didn't help either) and she wants us to stay the course we are going and keep doing exactly what we have been and maybe eventually
2007-03-29 06:51:52 · update #1
You already know!! You don't need anyone to give you confirmation. You obviously still like her and she you, otherwise the two of you would not hang so much. I think you realize how much you want her and that's why you're questioning the break up. I suggest, do what you feel is right. Yet, if you're unsure of how she feels, the best way to find out is ask her. Simple, say do you think we should give it another try and work from there. Make sure you are ready for what's to come because hanging out as friends is one thing and as a couple is another. Ask and see, then make a decision.
2007-03-27 08:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you said here. "I'm finding I made a huge mistake by breaking up with you, and I honestly think you're amazing and I really like you." Add on "Will you give me a second chance?" Do this in person while dressed nicely with flowers and or chocolate and you might have a shot considering she is still spending so much time with you. She might still have feelings for you too. Good Luck and let us know how it goes!
2007-03-27 15:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by TMemories 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her! Obviously she likes you to some extent if she stills hangs around you (most of the guys I date I can't stand to see them after I break up with them). The question is whether she thinks of you as a friend or not. Tell her driectly, look into her eyes, and also tell her that you respect if you are just her friend. Chances are that she feels the same way as you do but doesn't want to take a chance of loosing your friendship!
2007-03-27 15:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by stlcards9008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel about her. if she does not feel the same way y'all need to stop talking because you maybe thinking you have feelings that aren't really there, because you broke up for some reason right? So maybe you werent feeling it and now you think you are. people that spend alot of time together think they have feelings when they really don't. so be careful, but you should definetly ask her how she feels about you.
2007-03-27 15:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you getting the same vibe from her that she wants you back? Since you guys talk a lot, I would bring the subject up.... just tell her what you think of her and say that you still have feelings. Let it branch off from there
2007-03-27 15:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to my ex, he's doing the same thing with me! Um, I would talk to her about it, see where she's at, she may want to get back together or she may just want to be friends. Honesty is the best policy. Just as long as you don't hurt her twice, she won't recover easily from that.
2007-03-27 15:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly that! She obviously still has feelings for you! So tell her you made a mistake, and you want to get back together with her!
2007-03-27 15:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, you two are really connected, not just as former lovers but friends...and thats rare. not many people can have a successful friendship after a break up. I say go for it, see if she feels the same.
2007-03-27 15:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave things alone for now, seems like your both enjoying yourselves being friends. and there is not all that tension, when your intimately involved. When the time is right, you'll both feel it and then you can act on it.
2007-03-27 15:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her honestly what an idiot you were, and see if she feels the same. If she is still seeing you this much, obviously she still cares. Good Luck Darlin.
2007-03-27 15:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋