have known this guy for 3 years. We have always got on very well and he has paid me zillions of compliments about my smarts.He bigs me up eveytime I see him but he has always been the perfect gentleman. Recently it has stepped up a gear and we are lightly flirting. I found out that he has a girlfriend of more than a few years. He has never been sleazy in any way and treats me with total respect. He has made me feel really good about myself and been very understanding when I talked to him about some personal issues and drama. Like I said the perfect gentleman. I am certainly not young and naive but I feel this man would like a relationship with me. It seems to be heading that way because we seem so connected and the way he acts around me. Nothing physical has happened and it wouldn't because he has a girlfriend. However I do really like him and I am a person that dosen't see things in black and white, circumstances and situations are very complex and I know these things happen.
2007-03-27 08:03:45 · 9 answers · asked by Michele 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you please just leave an opinion of whether or not he is genuinely interested or not. I am well aware of the situation and would NEVER enter into a relationsjip with someone who was already in one with someone else! I just want an opinion of what his motives are so I know how to handle this. I don't need a lecture or being told not to get involved!
2007-03-27 08:05:36 · update #1
Just limit yourself to friendship relationship. You will not know what might happen in the future.
2007-03-27 08:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one but I would say that if he is giving ou compliments and treating you respectfully that mean he is being a total gentleman. I would say that if he has not brought up the fact that he had a girlfriend before that he is interested in you but at the same time cares about his girlfriend. If you are really interested in him go for him. Stay being friends and the longer you are friends the more you will learn about him so if things do not work out with the girlfriend you will know if you really want to be with him or not. Good luck with every thing!!
2007-03-27 08:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly_2blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really be the one to tell you how he feels about you. He may have feelings for you, but on the other hand, I know a lot of boys act like this around girls they just want to be friends with because they are just genuinely nice, friendly people. I would say, don't intervene. Your friendship is too precious. Just keep being friends with him, and see what happens in future.
2007-03-27 08:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are natural flirts and outgoing. Maybe he is a naturally friendly/flirtatious person and it could all mean nothing. Don't read too much into it if he has made it known that he has a girlfriend.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-27 08:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend, his girlfriend might break up with him tomorrow?
Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans!
What I am saying is don't try and plan anything out just go with the flow and maybe it will work out in the future maybe not, at least you can have a good friend!
2007-03-27 08:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do u THINK his motives are? If he has had the same GF for a long time, why is he even messin wit u? If he would flirt with u then he would flirt with someone else if you 2 began seeing one another. DUMP THIS LOSER, AND FAST SISTER.
2007-03-27 08:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by want to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually i think that secretly you would love an excuse to start something with him. We cannot be mindreaders so it is not possible to tell if he is coming on to you. However, it is very simple to deal with. if he ever actuallyasks you out just say you are very flatttered but you do not see him in that way - just as a good friend.
2007-03-27 08:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep he is intereseted, he wants what is out of reach, and once its in reach he may not be so interested. He is a guy and though he is respectful and gentleman, he still has temptations that make him flutter.
2007-03-27 08:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he likes you . However, wait untill he is single before being tempted to go with him. If he will split with his girlfriend for you than great! But of course wait until then
2007-03-27 08:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by elflocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋