how to cure social anxiety?

Question

whenever i'm around people, except for a few, i get really nervous and paranoid about what to say. people say i'm weird, but i just get really anxious and uncomfortable with people....how do you cure this? is there a pill, or just a way to get rid of this nervousness? i don't have many friends, and I think this may be why. No one wants to be around someone awkward, do they? because in turn it makes THEM feel awkward, doesn't it? Does anyone else have this problem? Sometimes I drink to relieve these feelings, but I can't always depend on alcohol to cure my nervousness with people forever. What are some good tips to feel more comfortable and confident with people?

Answer 1

I wouldn't go the pill route. You are afraid of people. Either because you think they won't like you the way you are or you're afraid of saying something and they'll think you're weird.
Believe me, other people are TOO self absorbed to think about you as often as you think they are. It's all in your head. No one is thinking about you and no one is staring at you. You are the only one who thinks about yourself constantly. Stop that.

Answer 2

If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here https://tr.im/AnxietyTreatment

Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed
Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life
Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

Answer 3

Hey dear. I suffered this to 4 years until now its have made things fine. Normal.

Following things will help u build confidence n self esteem. This will help u notgetbothered n will help u b bold. Later on u will HV the guts to talk to ppl at the face

Go out with family or childhood frnds
Discover urself. Find the best in u.
Get a makeover makeup n haircut n get an amazing personality
Take a career which u r good n comfortable at. Which ids of yr type. Not to please someone.
Chat wid childhood frnds.
Own a pet. It helps a lot.
Make ur room a room filled with sunlight n use bright colours or quotations n make the room positive n mind peaceful
Eat 70% healthy n 30% junk

@nd the most imp thing. Pray to god. Pray pray until u are saved

Praise the lord

Answer 4

I would suggest getting professional help. Social anxiety is usually partnered with another type of disorder such as PTSD or depression. Self medicating with alcohol will only aggrivate the situation, also if you haven't been diagnosed by a professional you can not be sure if it's social anxiety so please get that checked out first. Also self esteem is a major factor in confidence. If you aren't confident with yourself, people will usually pick up on that.

Answer 5

Social anxiety can cause these feelings, which can also lead to severe depression, and substance abuse
http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/ds...

It sounds like this disorder has impaired your perceptions as it once did mine. No, they don't feel awkward, they have NO IDEA how severe the feeling is for YOU ... your belief patterns make it feel like it is 10 times more real than it really shows.

There is hope; I've been there, and still am there, it is a long, hard struggle. I recommend
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/cognitive_b... worked best for me, with mild anti-anxiety meds. I suffered from social anxiety for over 15 years. I've tried individual therapy, and group therapy and studied psychology for 10 years, as a profession, but also with the hope to cure myself.

Depending on your comfort level, you could go to a psychologist that practices CBT and specializes in anxiety disorders, seek a group therapy, or create one. Usually those that do attend the group therapy are a bit more high functioning because as you know, it can be difficult to speak in a group.

Another idea is to see if there are any local research studies being conducted that you could participate in.

The program that finally worked the best for me is this one: http://www.socialanxiety.us/findinghelp.... and I was lucky enough to have a structured behavioral group to go along with it. Sometimes the people that actually attend this program come back home and form groups.

I recommend a mild anti-anxiety med in addition to CBT therapy.

Any questions, let me know ... I can't tell you how much this has improved my life!

Answer 6

I am single mum. I have been suffering for panic attacks for some 15 years now, though it was not until recently I understood what they were. They were progressively getting stronger and more frequent, stopping me from some days even leaving my house. I read this book and it all made perfect sense.

I am not saying I was not terrified of putting theory to action, I was more scared of that than the next attack! But I decided to view it as a game, one I had control of and could therefore not lose!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

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Answer 9

Try to work through it. Try not to worry so much about what other people are thinking.
Get some counseling.
As a last resort, try meds.

Answer 10

not everyone shares this opinion, but don't take drugs.
most people say everyone is weird it just means their uncomfortable and it's their issue not yours. i know you want to just be able to be yourself and not worry about what others think. it takes time. reversing your thinking patterns, experiencing new things, be around the people who support you in being yourself. and don't worry about what they think, you can't make fun of somebody who is just themselves. if they do then it's their problem, trying to make themselves feel better by judging you. just be yourself they'll think your weird no matter what you do.