communicating with your boyfriend?

Question

how do you get a guy to communicate with you and tell him how you feel with out him getting mad and upset and bringing up things to make you mad. My boyfriend wont talk about what bothers him and he bottles it up. Is there anyway i can get him to communicate with me

Answer 1

You don't. Respect his wishes and don't try to get him to talk if he doesn't want to. It can act against you and you might come off like a nag. Let him know that when and if he is ready you will be there for him. Some people just prefer keeping things to themselves.

Answer 2

Just keep trudging. I have the same problem with my FIANCE, I just keep telling him that communication is the key to a relationship that is expected to last. I told him I can't marry a man I can't talk to about any and everything. I'm a talker though and I had to realize that we handle things differently. He bottles up, I have to talk it to death until I'm satisfied that's it dead. Talking about it right away makes him crazy, holding it in for even a night makes me hallucinate and make the problem bigger. So we are trying to compromise (the other big C in a happy relationship). Instead of tackling things head on, I am "trying" to hold back some, let some time pass and then talk about it. For his part, he's trying to open up within a day or two instead of never discussing it at all. It's a process, and it's hard, but it's worth it if you really want the relationship. Hope that helped.

Answer 3

Sit him down and start the conversation. Explain to him that a relationship is meant to build a bond between two people, and communication is a main component. Don't place too much pressure on him. Talk to him gently and don't push things. Just let him know that you're there for him.

Answer 4

Yess!! It might make you feel slightly uncomfortable but sit him down or get him on the phone... ask him how he feels [just to make sure he is in the mood to talk] then tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are there if he wants to talk about something and dont pressure him into telling you anything that he isnt ready to reveal. Just let him know that you are there and just be kind to him. He'll come around. :]

Answer 5

Most guys want to think about a serious subject and then will speak of it later after they have thought it all out for some time. Relax, he will eventually communicate with you. Just give him some space and time.

Answer 6

You can get him to communicate only if he wants to. Are you asking point blank questions that he is ignoring or are you asking blanket questions, like what's wrong? The correct kind to ask are small specific ones that initiate conversation. If he won't participate then you have a problem. Your choice then is stay and fight or leave.

Answer 7

My greatest advice to you is not to ask him directly. They put up a wall. What I do is hey there hunny how was your day? and sometimes they go in to it. Get him talking about something little then the rest usually comes out. Works for me. Sometimes when theyre not ready yo talk about it, expecially to a (gf) they shut down and askin question will just any him.

Answer 8

Tell him it will make him feel better and to try it just once. My hubby was like that a long time ago. I explained to him how important communication was especially in a relationship. he tried it once and has been very open since then.

Answer 9

You can't make him do something, but you can try to encourage him and hope he does open up. Ask how he's feeling and how his day went. Listen to him without interrupting with your own point of view or arguing. If he insists on being nasty and trying to pick fights, there isn't that much you can do for his personality.

Answer 10

yes there is an way to get ur bf to talk to u but first thing if he dosent tell u his feelings or dosent talk to u then u need a new bf but the way to communicate with him is when u see him tell him that u guys gotta talk bout something whatever it dosent matter to let him know that u care bout him .