Are there any military guys out there? My boyfriend is in the army and they went on a important exercise (where they use live ammunition). He told me that the exercise would only last 7 days and that he would call me the minute he got back. There weren't allowed to take their mobiles with them. 3 days later and I haven't heard anything from him. His mother called me earlier and asked if I heard anything from him. So his mother is also worried. Do you think he could be dead?? I am really worried!
2007-03-27 07:46:55 · 44 answers · asked by NiceGirl 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The 7 days are already over. He should have finished by now. It has been 10 days now that I haven't heard anything.
2007-03-27 08:00:22 · update #1
Being in the military myself, we've gone on several missions that were only supposed to be for so long, but then while your out there, the higher ups make changes. Changes in the military happen so much it's frustrating as hell. I really wouldn't worry though. If anything were to happen to him, the red cross would be notified immediately and then from there they call the next of kin, whether he's wounded, some sort of accident or death. It happens within 24 hours. So no, I wouldn't worry. Just so you know, I'm sure he feels really bad himself since he gave you a timeline, but is not able to get a hold of you. Don't worry about these idiots giving you crap about the days you wrote down, I got what you were saying. Don't worry though, as soon as he gets back from the field, I'm sure the first thing he'll do is call you and apologize for not calling on time even though it's not his fault.
2007-03-27 08:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by "HKB" 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey the most important thing to remember is always "no news is good news." If something were to happen to him, his mom (or whoever he put down on his paperwork) would be notified immediately. They inform families of casualties within 24 hours - if something had happened to him, you'd already know.
When they use live ammunition, they are very careful. These guys know what they are doing and they don't actually fire live rounds at each other, they shoot at targets. Accidents do happen, but it is incredibly rare to hear of people being killed during live fire exercises. My husband's unit does them all the time and I never worry about it. Worry about deployments, but don't worry about training exercises. There's enough to stress about already, you don't need to put anymore on yourself.
If he is deployed or still in training, he has other people telling him when he can use the phone. Or maybe they just decided to stay in the field a little longer. There are a million reasons that he wouldn't be able to call, and none of them involve him being hurt. I'm sure there is a perfectly logical reason that he cannot call, and he will call you as soon as he can. Until then, try not to worry too much. He'll get to a phone when he can.
EDIT: The other people above me are right. No offense, but if you get this freaked out about him being in the field for a few days, you may want to consider whether you are ready to be in a relationship with a soldier. The first time my husband deployed, he was gone for 15 months and there were times I didn't hear from him at all for 5-6 weeks. Just something to think about.
2007-03-27 07:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What, military woman can't answer your question???
He's in the Army, he's not at summer camp. The Army will take as long as they want to do their training. They may have had a bad training where everyone was screwing up and they extended the exercise. Whenever you are told anything about anything involving time in the military NEVER count on it. The Navy has the motto of hurry up and wait and I'm sure the Army has one just like it. He is at work doing his job. If he was killed during a live fire exercise the public would know about it. Relax if you want to survive dating a Soldier. Military life is not governed by civilian time tables and events. Yes, it does suck that you don't know what it is up, but it is normal.
2007-03-27 09:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your boyfriend went on this "exercise" I'm assuming that he's not in a hostile zone but rather an LFX or live fire training exercise. My unit was deployed in Iraq for 16 months and we had our share of casualties and fatalities, from my understanding the next of kin was informed of a death or combat related injury within hours of the incident. I always told my wife and parents that no news is good news. Also, if anything happened to your boyfriend his parents would have been notified by now.
2007-03-27 08:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are concerned and it is natural to be; however, his mother would of known before you based on who he has signed beneficiary. etc.
It is a training mission and most likely, it is fine.
Sometimes they limit communication to family/friends/relationships so their troops can stay focused on their job. It is the military, have to be understanding of that.
It has only been 3 out of the 7 days. Allow him to do his job and you become focused on something to help time pass by. You will hear from him.
I didn't hear from my husband for 2 months while he was in Iraq last time. After that, I didn't hear from him for another 3 weeks. He was able to call for a week straight, then they moved to another location where I might get an email or phone call 1 time or 2 times a month.
Communication has to be altered one way or another, if any is available to be given.
2007-03-27 08:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. What any CO calls 7 days is easily more. Could be a month. I was in basic when my CO recruited me for sniper school and we were supposed to go on a little 5 day training. Turned out to be 26 days instead. No explanation was needed because soldiers don't ask questions. I was in the marines though. I am not sure how hard the army is on there guys, but I still wouldn't worry too much.
2007-03-27 07:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
He told you 7 days and it's only been 3 days? Give it time. they can't wind up a military exercise of 7 days in just a few. There's a reason for it being 7 days.
It's an exercise and it's highly unlikely he's been harmed in any way. At the very most he could break a leg or something but death is very very unlikely.
2007-03-27 07:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure if you mean 3 days after the seven, or only 3 out of seven days. In any case, they usually go to the range very often, at least once every three months, so this is comon. when the weather is bad, they get delayed until they have done what they went out there to do in th first place. If tis doesn't put you at ease, then there is a chain of command which you can follow to find out how they are doing. Seeing as how you aren't married to him, they might not give you information. but his mom could call if she wants to.
2007-03-27 07:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by chelly01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont be dead, his mother would know by now if he was, plus the media would've picked up on it.
Live fire exercises happen all the time with no one getting hurt, so you've got nothing to worry about. The Army isn't always exact with timings so him being late calling you could well be down to the Army messing him about.
Chill!
2007-03-27 07:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Alex :) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry if he was dead or seriously injured his parents would have been contacted. They can extend any field exercise without any explanation. I know I have had field exercises last 3-7 days longer.
He will call when he can, without you being a spouse you need to keep up with his parents.
2007-03-27 07:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by k9mpgsd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋