Hi im been married for 4 years do you think is time to think about baby's. when we gat marrie we talked about it and the decision was to wait 3 year he is 29 and im 26 i think im ready but he is not he still think about the monie we have a pretty good job im a legal practice and he is a Propety adjuster
2007-03-27 07:32:25 · 5 answers · asked by MQueen 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Generally and ideally speaking, you should wait until you are BOTH mentally, emotionally, financially, and physically ready for children. Being a parent is the toughest job there is and you want to make sure that you are as ready as possible so that things will be a little easier on you and your husband and for the baby. On the other hand, there are certain risks involved with conception as you get older...especially once you hit 30. You shouldn't wait too long if you want children because then you might make things harder on yourself, your body, and your child. All in all, talk with your husband and decide what's right for the both of you and what will best benefit your baby and go from there. You can even write the pros and cons of having a baby in the near future on paper so you have a better idea of what you're getting into. All the best... :o)
2007-03-27 07:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by MissDiva1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a HUGE Decision that needs to be discussed.
My husband and I were married for 2 years and 3 months when we found out I was pregnant. It wasn't planned at all, it was a oops. But we took it and dealt with it one step at a time. I have a 7 year old from a previous relationship so raising a kid wasn't anything new to him except when we got together my daughter was almost 3 years old. So he didn't have to handle the baby stages. But now our son is almost 9 months old and things are great. The baby is getting bigger almost everyday. He is so mobile in his walker. And he babbles all the time.
Anyways back to you. I would say just sit down and explain to your husband that you want to have a child with him and remind him about your discussion you had when you first got married about kids.
Yes they are expensive to have but if you wait until your financially ready you will never have a kid. Because I don't think anybody is financially ready to raise kids. You just need to budget your money and you will be fine if it's a money issue.
If it's just him not being ready for a kid then you need to talk to him and find out when he will be ready and if he says never then at that point you need to ask yourself if not having kids is what you really want in your life.
Good Luck I hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-27 14:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by blondie21_97504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a big decision. You should both be ready or at least open to the possibility of a child before conceiving. Money should not be the only reason for not having a child. They can bring so much joy and fulfillment into your lives!
2007-03-27 14:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by maria_margaret 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready you may have to find someone else you already waited 3 yrs how much longer is he going to take another 3 then another 3
2007-03-27 14:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say you sound more than ready! I was 19 and my bf was the only one working and we did just fine. Just don't tell him your trying!
2007-03-27 14:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Mother of 2! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋