What should i do?

Question

Im having a bit of a problem, i am an 18 yr old girl who is very attracted to a 28yr old male i met over the internet, and he has made clear that this attraction is mutual. Neither of us were looking for anything more than a fun chat when we met, but now he has mentioned getting together for real and becoming serious. All of my friends think im crazy for even considering this given that i have absolutly no problem getting good guys right here at my college, but i cant seem to stop thinking about him. I know for a fact that he has not lied about the important things anyway as i have seen him on cam and therefore was able to confirm his age, apperance, occupation, etc. We just seem to click and although everything i have ever been taught goes against this, i find myself wanting nothing more than to take him up on his offer and be with him. What should i do?

Answer 1

girl you arent crazy, I;m 17 i met my boyfriend over the internet...( i was also able to confirm all that he was a friend of a friend) and we have been together for almost a year, and it has been great. if you havent met him in person though be in a crowded place when you do ( just in case) and the internet is a great way to get to know someone...i think you should go for it!

Answer 2

If you were 28 and he was 38, I'd say, take a long a friend and meet him in a VERY PUBLIC place...more than once. I know you'll hate this, but and 18 year old and a 28 year old are more than just the ten years in their differences!! He has had time to marry, divorce, have a couple of kids, gone through a lot of women, etc., etc. In fact, it is very likely that he is really 38!!! I just read that lying about age is the biggest Internet dating thing. If you are 18 and "have no problem getting good guys", why do you want to get involved with 'used goods'? You are opening a real can of worms. Read the label very carefully!!
Big P.S. Older guys, who are mature and have good self-esteem, go out with women closer to their own age!!

Answer 3

OUCH!! First since I work with sex offenders on parole (secretary for therapists) I've seen the internet danger!! However I MET my husband via internet, but through a licensed business. We've been married going on 17 years now with two beautiful children! If it's what GOD wants - it will work. Maybe you should get together and go out LOTS of times before you make any BIG decisions. Your friends mean well - they're just worried about you. Becareful! KNOW EVERYTHING about him and leave ALL vital info with a friend before you go out in case anything does happen!! I'm sorry to say you really have to be more cautious nowadays!! Good luck - I also know it's hard to tell the heart NO!!

Answer 4

Can you send me an email? I want to ask you some things so that I can help you more.
It's always risky going out with guys who you haven't met in person. You need to think about things instead of just letting your feelings take over. IF you do go out and meet with this guy then you don't want to do it alone. Alot of relationships are started on the internet but alot of kidnappings and rape/murder comes from meetings from the internet as well. You want to avoid that. I say that you bring a group of your friends along and have them go to the places where you are going to check out. Maybe 3 or 4 people. Of course you will want the guy to tell you how he is going to be dressed before hand so that you can or your friends can identify him and check him out before you actually go and meet with him. Make sure that atleast one of your friends is a guy (but don't tell him that). This is because if he does turn out to be dangerous he will be unlike to try to sexually assault another guy (he may be discouraged into just leaving instead). But like I said, I could help you more if you would send me a message.

Answer 5

honey, how do you know this guy isn't a stalker. you may have see him on webcam but it's not the same. seeing a movie and being in person is way different. he still may have lied about his age some guys look a lot younger then they really are. and he could still be a predator as well, i know everyone will be saying the same thing but i do believe in fate and it may be fate that you met. and since he did show you his face whether on webcam or in person, shows that he prolley is an okay guy. so what i say is go out with him but protect yourself really well just in case. good luck and i hope it all works out for you. plus you are a grown woman so you can make your own decisions. should you choose to meet him, then more power to you. but should he hurt you in person be prepared to protect yourself.

Answer 6

While some people may not agree, the internet CAN be a good place to meet people. Alternatively, it can be a dangerous place. Meet him for the first several dates in very public places, and don't reveal too much personal information (such as your address). Be careful and have your guard up, but this might be a good opportunity.

Answer 7

been there done that.. take it slow.. dont do anything huge.. do it in phases.. first you just gotta meet the guy.. people seem must diffrent over the net then in real life.. cause they have longer to think of what to say and you dont always see there excpressions and its just fun c2c with someone more then in person.. so you realy just have to go on some real dates... im sure you think you realy like this guy but he honestly can be a totaly diffrent person.. as sthe same for you.. he may not like the in person you more then the internet you.. so go on some dates.. talk more on the phone then the net.. goodluck

Answer 8

Have you thought to yourself yet.... "what does a 28 year old man find interesting about an 18 year old?" He should be out meeting woman his own age. What do you have to offer him?
If you still feel like you should meet him, then do so. But do it in a public area. And dont let him pick you up from your house. Be smart and safe about this.

Answer 9

Take it slow. You can't be positive about what a man tell you even when you have met them in person let allone on the internet it is much more difficult. Be sure that you meet him in a crouded place & don't be in such a hurry. Times are scary & u need to take care of yourself b 4 u fulfill you need to b loved.
Good luck

Answer 10

Have a back ground check done first. The web cam can not tel you if he is a stalker or rapist etc....Make sure no matter what you do that you meet with friends in a place with lots of people! Be SAFE!