My daughter is 4yrs old. I had never shown her a picture of her dad because I didn’t want to open a can of worms. The other night I was looking at some picture and I found a picture of him and she saw it and said “That’s my Daddy”, I didn’t know what to say, the other day she told me that her daddy is her friend and that he gave her a hug. Last nigh was the worst because she kept on asking me were was her daddy, she kept saying “I want my daddy I want my daddy”, I don’t know what to tell her she is too small to understand. What kills me is that he was the worst dad out there, and when she grabs his picture and hugs it kills me. I have no idea how to deal with it.
2007-03-27 07:28:04 · 12 answers · asked by Jazmin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was 8 when my grandma died, and my little sister, was only 3. and this is how we explained it to her.
God was going on a fishing trip, with some angels in heaven. they noticed that they had an extra seat, so they stopped and asked ________ if they wanted to come. So now, ________ is in heaven. They live with god, and you cant go and see them, but someday, god will ask us if we want to go fishing too, and we can see _________ again.
she got it. she understood that she wasnt coming back. you dont have to tell her that he was a bad father, not until you think that she is old enough to understand, and you are ready to deal with it. just keep telling her that you love her. and that you have enough love, that you can make up for it. you could even throw it into the little fishing story. you could tell her that since you had enough love for the both of you, that he got to go fishing. be creative.
let her have a picture. she needs to know that he was there. if you have a piture of him holding her, put it in a frame (with plastic, not glass) and put it on her dresser. she can have her daddy. even if he is gone.
2007-03-27 07:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is your little girl. I would tell her that God took him home to live with him because he was needed up in heaven. No need to tell her anything bad about him, you want her to grow up loving him and not start by telling her what he did wrong. One day she will say that she comes from him and there for she is a bad girl too. So tell her just the good things that got you to the point that you wanted him to be the father of your child. There has to be some good to him that made you love him at one point. So only give her the good and leave the ugly only for your memory, when she is an adult she will thank you for not making her memory of her dad ugly. That is what a good mother will do is spare any ugliness from her child.
2007-03-27 07:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, thats truely sad.
Shes not nearly old anough to understand or take it all in at once, you probally need to tell her a lie, but a good lie that will help yall both. Tell her that hes on a trip and wont be back for a couple of years, or tell her the truth, which could hurt her for a long time till shes in her teens. she'll need him the most when shes in her teens though too. so try hard, and pray.
2007-03-27 07:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by Animal-obsesser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I have never been there but I can only imagine.I think its kind of important she knows who her daddy was and maybe some of the good things about him.but thats your decision. As long as it doesnt hurt you to talk about him give her a chance to understand. She is a little young still..Just dont make her wait forver or she will never sto-p asking..Good Luck..
2007-03-30 02:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand she is 4 yrs. old but it is time to explain to her that her father is in heaven. Just sit her down and before you even do that, If you believe in God pray and ask him to stare you in the right direction and give you the words to say and just explain to her. Daddy is in heaven with God! It may sound easier said then done but you can do it!
2007-03-27 08:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by xcage23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to tell her that her Dad was an SOB. Tell her that God called him to go to Heaven and he is watching over both of you from there. Later you can tell her about the dying part but the part about being a bad Dad should be your secret.
2007-03-27 07:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. Kids will resent you if you lie to them. Tell her daddy is in heaven with the angels. And that he is watching over her.
2007-03-27 13:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by franny1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to tell your daughter about her father before she heards it from somebody else. It is never to late. You need to get over that he was the worst father, your daughter needs to know everything about her dad.
2007-03-27 07:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Heaven Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let go of the anger you have towards your childs father and do what is best for her. you need to explain to her that _______ happened to daddy and because of that he is an angel working for God. I know this might not be easy for you but it is what is best for your child.
2007-03-27 07:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by jahvar's mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her the photo and talk to her about him...she has a right to know about him...don't you want to keep him alive? If not why? Keep it short...don't go into .it.just say.he died....and lives in Heaven and we will see him up there someday!
2007-03-27 07:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋