He is 54 yrs old and complains about kids loud music and how they act, like he forgot he once was young. He talks about being in the navy when he was 18-20 yrs old like it was yesterday and attempted to get in contact with some guy he rode on a plane ride back to base when he was 19 and found out he had died awhile back. He went to his high school reunion and didnt invite me along. I suspicioned he was trying to hook up with an old flame.
He says high school football is the answer to raising boys to be responsible men. He talks about playing high school football like it was yesterday. His license plates has his year of high school graduation on them. Its like he is caught in a time warp.
He talks about being in the Navy over and over. We even went to Texas 3 yrs ago to look around his old Navy area. He has never been on a ship and never went anywhere.
Is he having a hard time getting out of the past and going thru a crisis or are some old guys just like that?
2007-03-27 07:26:51 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's just that he woke up one day and realized that the best days of his life are in his past, rather than in his future. No wonder he chooses to hold them close, and live them often. Of course, he probably won't admit that...that would make him "Old".
It may be a good idea if you could give him something to look forward to...a reason to get his concentration on next month rather than 30 years ago. Some new adventure, like taking up skydiving, or cruising around the country on a motorcycle...whatever gets him into this moment, and out of the past.
I doubt if there is any way to get him to accept newer music, and old flames have a way of looking better from a distance...the more distant the better.
The biggest thing to worry about is that if he doesn't get his head into the present, it's hard for you to build a future with him. See if he's willing to risk that...from the sound of your question, you are not part of his past, and you can never be included in it. If he chooses to live there, you can't join him.
2007-03-27 07:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been dating him for over 3 years and you're just now noticing this? 54 is the age of my dad and he is the exact opposite of that dude so dont even SAY 54 is "old geezer"; he blasts heavy metal day and night. So maybe you found some guy who sounds like he would've lived in the 40s or something talking about how great his boys were in WWII or maybe "i had to walk 15 miles uphill, in the snow, one way" . Ditch him and if you like older guys find someone fun cuz 54 is not that old if you're in the right state of mind
2007-03-27 14:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im assuming your younger, say late 20s, early 30s???
Yeah he's going thru a mid-life crisis, realizing over half his life is gone, and apparently he hasnt done SH*T. Dating an older man is ok, but not an old man...and not an old loser.
You can try to help him recapture some of his youth, by suggesting fun little (age appropriate) adventures. Like suggesting a romantic weekend cruise, since he likes sailing (wink, wink...lol) Or maybe him taking a class or lessons for something he's always wanted to try.
You can email me privately, I last dated a 47yr old man... who was very athletic...and very viril. Meow... lol.. I helped him thru his crisis. It was worth it!
2007-03-27 14:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by too_hot4words 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating him? It may be that he's been this way since the days he's fond of, or it may be a more recent development if he's become dissatisfied with his current life and/or life around him (the world in general).
He's not likely to change however, so either learn to deal with how he is and dig him anyway, or move on.
2007-03-27 14:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has been doing the same thing hes 49, its like they want to re-live their hay day or something! Not only re-live it more like re-write it too! my husband has come up with some crap so out of character I know it ain't true! I just try to not get too involved - not act like i dont believe it, just kind of smile and nod occasionally and let him ramble on. If its harmless I guess its ok.
2007-03-27 14:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by just me #1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say he is having a midlife crisis and is getting lonely so now he is going to be kranky unless u give it up 2 him
2007-03-27 14:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by jessica s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋