My uncle was diagnosed with colan cancer and for the past 2 years he has been cancer free. We just recently found out that it is back but it is now in his liver and too large to operate. I have told my daughter that he is sick, but that is all. My child knows about people that have passed away such as my grandma who she never met, and we put our dog to sleep about a year ago. At that time we told her everyone is in heaven, should I continue to tell her this or should I explain things more? Thank you!
2007-03-27 07:23:57 · 6 answers · asked by Kaley H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
am very sorry to hear about your uncle. its a hard one regarding talking to a child about death. it depends how much you want her to know really and how much you think she understands. i know it sounds awful but personally i would wait until the time has come when he has left you. children have a habbit of coming out with things and you dont want her to tell your uncle hes going to heaven soon cas it probably isnt something he would like to hear.
god forbid if the time ever came when someone my son (hes 4)knew got very poorly or died , i think i would just say the person had gone to heaven and is now an angel. death can be a difficult thing to grasp for a little person esp cas they will never see the person again. its very hard thing to do but i think you know ur little girl better than anyone else.
good luck and once again so sorry about ur uncle
2007-03-27 08:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by alrightyyy_then 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure what your daughter is like or can understand, only you know that. But my daughter is 3 and she understands to a certain degree what it's all about. I have told her, because she asked, that when you die you are no longer breathing or growing or any of the things that she dose and then your spirit goes to heaven and your body that you no longer need because it doesn't work anymore goes into the ground and it goes to a special place so other people can visit and remember the person
2007-03-27 07:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my Grandmother died, my daughter who was three at the time told my Mom it was OK because our cat was up in Heaven too and he would keep her company. Heaven isn't a story, it's a place. Children understand more than we know.
2007-03-27 07:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is still too young to go into more detail about death. Keep the heaven story. In time your child will ask questions on her own and then you will have to explain.
2007-03-27 07:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Carmen M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children at this age do not really understand this sort of thing, just stick to what you have been telling her...getting into to much detail will just confuse her
2007-03-27 07:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anita G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for that age yes keep it that way
2007-03-27 11:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Terri L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋