I think I need serious emotional help. I fell head over heels for this guy, and told him I was on birth control when I wasn't because I was afraid if I didn't have sex he would break up with me. He broke up with me anyway, but then I found out I'm pregnant, and he wanted proof that I was on bc. I lied until I couldn't anymore and then my only option was to have an abortion or tell the truth. At first he was really supportive Now he's not talking to me. I can't say I blame him, but I'm still in love with him and the reason we broke up in the first place was something he said we could work out til he found out I had lied about the bc. I know I hurt him, and I don't think I can make it right! Any suggestions on what to say to him?
2007-03-27 07:18:40 · 11 answers · asked by Heather G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give a sincere apology. Tell him why you lied. Don't lie to him anymore. He may not accept your reason or your apology, but there is nothing you can do about it. You know it was wrong to lie about this, so there is no need to keep beating yourself up. If you are having the baby, maybe he will change his mind when he sees his child. However, do what you have to do to take care of yourself and your unborn baby and pray about the rest. Also, if he doesn't accept you as you are.......flaws & all......then maybe he's not worth your time. Also, consider seeing a counselor to help you deal with any problems you may have. There's no shame in counseling. It helps!
2007-03-27 07:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Amy27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get over that guy and go on about your businesses. You lied about the bc, so what he probaly lied the whole time you were dating. All I want to know is did you keep the baby, and he wasn't even worth it because in order for you to keep him you had to had sex with him. Now look he broke up with you anyway.
2007-03-27 14:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Heaven Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on yourself before you can be with anyone. I suggest you start counselling because it sounds like you have low self esteem if you are willing to have sex to keep someone from leaving you. You'll be better off in the long run. There are low cost options fr BC. Go to http://www.plannedparenthood.org for options.
2007-03-27 14:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be in a hurry to solve this...this is still reversible damage !
In time ..as an when you both share and face challenges ..eventually he will realize that a lie also keeps a relationship happy.
Just do not give up and love him even more ! and communicate more openly..many times truth may seem like untruth if you lack communication ...be frank and honest
all the best !
2007-03-27 14:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. i dont mean to be rude.. but.. why would you lie to begin with.. you had sex with him cause you thought he would break up with you if you didnt.. that means he was only with you for the sex.. and not because he likes you.. so again why lie about that.. you could have said no and then got on the bc. if it ment so much or i dontknow use a condom.. the main thing i want you to focus on is this.. wouldnt you rater be hated for who you are then loved for who you are not? all you can do is tell the truth.
2007-03-27 14:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The likelihood of you guys getting back together is slim to none. You have lied to this man on more than one occasion and now he does not trust, and you can not have a strong relationship without trust. Please do not be surprised if he asks for a DNA test, not to say that you cheated but it might be going through his mind. You are going to have to say that you are sorry, and keep saying it until he believes you.
2007-03-27 14:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by danicolegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant really think of any good suggestions for you to say but heres one for you NOT to do. dont use the baby to try and work things out with him. using the baby will only make things worse in the long run.
2007-03-27 14:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about I was stupid, Im sorry and I will leave you alone. then leave him alone and dont do that again. use birth control, untill you and your partner agree and are ready, physicaly, emotionaly, and financialy to support a child
2007-03-27 14:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your sorry and you did cuz you didn't want to break up with him and think about your baby are you going to have it don't abort just cuz of him do it because you want to
2007-03-27 14:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by babyphat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus tell him ur sorry and give him a good explanation of why u lied to him (if there is any)
2007-03-27 14:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jainiecya H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋