I was with this guy for two years. He was my first love and first everything else. It has been six months, and i still feel llike i cant date anyone else. He has moved on, and it tears me up inside. we haent talked for that whole time. i still love and miss him. HELP??
2007-03-27 07:16:10 · 20 answers · asked by becki t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get rid of everything that reminds you of him. Go out with your friends and get your mind of him. Be independent! You don't need him. And be careful not to go on rebound. With your heart still hooked on him, you're most suceptible to pain again. Let time take it's course.
2007-03-27 07:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that love is a strong emotion, and if it is real, it doesn't ever go away. I don't mean that you won't ever move on, but I do mean that you will always remember this guy, the way you felt, and fantasize every so often. This will fade in time, and you will move on. When you think of him, don't get too wrapped up in it, but do enjoy the fact that you have something to remember. Then, remember that you the whole world in front of you, and it is your job to make something of yourself. Don't judge yourself by not keeping his love. I have 2 articles that might do you some good, I wish I had known these things ten years ago:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/171684/how_to_be_a_real_man.html
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/149567/how_to_be_a_real_woman.html
2007-03-27 07:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first "everything" is very hard to let go of. I know that for a fact. Due to my own insecurities I almost lost my only real love. All you can do is back off and try to move on slowly. Buy some new springs clothes, go out with friends to clubs and have a good time. No matter what, you have to see it as that old fashioned saying "if its meant to be, it will be" good luck
2007-03-27 07:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is your best friend. It is okay to miss him. Allow yourself to do that. May I suggest tweaking how just a little bit? Schedule your missing him. Do it at the same time every day. Write, reminisce in your mind, feel sorry for your self and even cry if you need to. The key is making yourself only allow thoughts of him during that special time. The rest of the day thoughts of him are off limits you have life to live. In time you will begin to forget having that time for remembering him or something great will come along and you will find yourself with better things to do.
2007-03-27 07:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honey, it seems that you still care a lot for this guy but he clearly has moved on. first loves are hard to get over but give it time and try not to think about it. you don't have to date anyone until you feel that you are ready but play the field a bit. let guys know that this incredible girl is out there and though she my be broken, she is not beyond repair. let them get to know you. maybe you'll see that there isn't just one person out there for you. good luck.
2007-03-27 07:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel.i broke up with this boy and we dated just four months and I still care for him and I can imagine you..2 years....!All I can say is that you have to find something that will occupy your thoughts, go out with friends, go to clubs, you'll find another guy that will replace the old one.One thing that always works for me is that I always think how he has moved on so it gives me a reason more not to think about him.You should move on to, life goes on without him :))))
2007-03-27 07:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say that the more you hang on to what could have been the more pain your heart has to take. You don't want to see yourself with anybody else because you don't believe that you can do better. Trust me you can do much better. If down the line he's still crazy about you he'll come. For now just live your life.
2007-03-27 07:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Noree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have grown attached to this guy. this usually happens when the guy is your first. i say you have to move on. dont force yourself to date other people, but it will come with time. take as long as you need but make sure you're not letting this guy control your life (in a way that youre thinking about him and not able to move on) take some girls nights out, and just have fun. its over. he's movied on try and do the same
2007-03-27 07:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in this same situation the best thing i did for myself was to move on. i know it is hard and i can not say you will forget about him or even stop loving him but it helps with the pain. i am now married and have a son, i miss my ex sometimes and i know in my heart i will always love him but by moving on i am no longer in love with him and i am very happy in my new marriage
2007-03-27 07:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by jahvar's mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it can take up to half the amount of time you were together to get over a realationship. It could potentially take you a year.
Use this time to reaffirm who you are with yourself. Become stronger in school, work, family, etc.
2007-03-27 07:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by blindedbyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋