How do i tell him to stop being clingy?

Question

I dont want to just break up with him, which is everyones answer. I just need some advice on how i could approach the topic and tell him he is being too clingy. we are together 24/7 no joke, I have homework to do and he just wont get off my back! i ignored him calling my cell this morning and he called my house! he just assumes we are going to hang out. I dont want to hurt his feelings, hes a sweet guy, i just cant take this anymore. how do i say "LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE FOR A WHILE" nicely?

Answer 1

Just tell him exactly what you told US.
Tell him you are together all the time and you don't even have time to MISS him.
Tell him that you really have homework to do too... that school is important.

He keeps assuming you two are going to hang out because apparently it's been the routine for a while. You helped MAKE that routine.

If you just communicate your feelings, he will understand if he really likes you. Don't be mean about it. Just TALK to him. He doesn't know what he's doing wrong if you don't TELL him...

Answer 2

You definitely need to approach the subject delicately, because it seems that there maybe some other emotional issues underlying. Try explaining to him that although you enjoy spending time with him, you need time to yourself as well to get things done such as homework, etc. Encourage him to get some friends as well. And just a thought to always keep in mind. My mom always tells me "Don't start anything you are not willing to keep up." If in the beginning you had set the pace as to the time you had for him, he may have not come to expect that you two would be joined at the hip. Good Luck!! I know what you are going through

Answer 3

You might can try yawning some or falling asleep when together, and don't always answer the phone if you know it's him or tell mom you're in the shower when she answers, to a degree you will have to measure out for success and there may be some compromise involved, too.

Perhaps dressing down might work, just try and be a bit more boring and dull (no offense) and you may have to accept there may be no in between, I do not know.

Good luck

Answer 4

Make sure he has limited access to you. Spend more time going out with your friends, and even by yourself. Partake in some activity, like dancing, that requires you to turn your cell phone off. Unplug your phone when you're at home. And if he still finds some way to get to you, explain, as rationally as you can, that you have work to do and don't have any time for him right now.

Answer 5

Cling people tend to think once they back off for awhile, their relationship will crumble, and so will they. You will have to tell that it may hurt him a little but you must focus on your studies and do well in school. He must understand that a good education for you will be the best for both of you in the future.

Answer 6

Tell him exactly what you have told us. Tell him you have things you have to do and you need time to do them. He may seem clingy now but after a while it will seem controlling or stalking behaviour.
He should be able to respect your space.

Answer 7

Well I wasn't dating the guy but he was my best friend who is like in LOVE with me, I hung out at his best friends house with him and his friend whichs is right next to mine and after 2 months i got sick of it cause i ahd a life and so did his friend. so i just told him, i need to hang with the girls and also, my parents are pisssed about my grades i need to stay home more by myself and do my work or i cna;t have a boyfriend (or hang with friends)

Answer 8

the nicer you are, the less likely you are to make your point. you said he's clingy so stop treating him like a baby, that will only make things worse. PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!