i have been off out with my bf for 2years, i have always been a jealous person but recently for no reason iv got worse. I hate it if he looks, speaks anything to another woman! if a attractive woman is on tv i think he staring at her. i hate it wen hes at work or out with his mates coz i dunno wat hes doing! its a huge problem and i need some help!
2007-03-27 07:11:33 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to have trust in him, if he loves you and he saids he loves only you, then trust him, you need to have trust to have a good realtionship, I had the same problem with my boyfriend's have girls, just as friends, in his cell, I talked to him about it, and he delted all them, cause I trust him, just talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel.
2007-03-27 07:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering if you bf is a flirt? Maybe he's flirting to make you jealous. Some people think that if you are jealous then you really care/love them. But since you say you have always been a jealous person maybe it was something that happened in your past. It is human nature for men/women to look at other men/women. Usually when you feel these feelings it's because something has happened to betray your trust in them. If nothing has happened you may want to seek relationship counseling (as a couple) to figure out what is going wrong if you are wanting to save the relationship.
2007-03-27 07:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by MD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how much you let him know about your jealousy, but it can destroy a relationship! Try to turn it around and imagine that he was always making comments and checking up on you! You would feel suffocated! There are beautiful girls/women around every corner! It is impossible for a guy not to acknowledge some of them and even sneak a peek!! I'm sure you glance at the 'hunks' out there...you wouldn't be human if you didn't! That doesn't mean that you are going to pursue anything!! Trust is extremely valuable in a relationship! You need to watch those ugly, jealous thoughts and ZAP! them. Get busy, do something constructive, get yourself all prettied up for when he returns. Many men, may look, but they are 'one woman' men and look forward to their "favorite squeeze". Don't chase this one off with narrow minded jealousy!!!
P.S. Most men don't stray if they are happy at home...know what I mean?
2007-03-27 07:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. when i had a bf not too long ago i started getting like that. i have never been a jealous person with any other man though. i think that is the answer, some people just bring out the jealousy in you. try consoling. or try talking to I'm about this. I'm sure since the two of you have been together for so long he will be responsive to something that you have a problem with.
also when you talk to him about this make sure you don't accuse him of doing any of this stuff. make it sound like it is your problem and that its not his fault at all. (really it is) also make him feel as if you are asking him for help with the situation. ask him if he knows how to deal with this. let him know that the reason why you get mad at him sometimes are really not even his fault at all its just you having this jealousy problem. I'm sure he will try to help you out if you put it like this.
2007-03-27 07:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hunny, the thing is you don't trust yourself and your current boyfriend. Trust me when I tell you this, "no man wants a woman who's going to get jealous." If you seriously keep this problem up then your current boyfriend is going to leave you hunny, and I know that's not what you really want if you've been with him for over two years now...Trust me he will tell you when he's had enough of your bull **** and not being able to trust him. The thing is if you want this relationship to work then you really need to try to trust him even though he could talk or een look at another woman. It doesn't really matter if he does that though, trust me I was engaged for 5 monthes but that never happened to me because there was trust in my relationship and my relationship lasted for over two years now and we're still together...Just trust me on this one....Write back if you have anymore questions for me....
2007-03-27 07:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by LilAngel04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the green eyed monster rears its ugly head again, we all go through this and each and every one of us is guilty of it at some point in our lives. trust comes with time and ok after 2 years you should feel more secure than you do right now, if your fella has given you no cause to doubt him then tell him how you feel and what triggers it off, if you know you are being unreasonable and he understands this then you will be able to work at straegies to overcome it, it is completely normal for a guy to look at other womwn and we cant stop their fantasies on the t.v or in the movies, i bet you have looked at a guy and thought...."fit" we all do even without realising it, just tell yourself he is with you and after 2 years he obviously loves you, it is hard but time will make it better and communication will do wonders for the problem....he will even be a bit flattered that you feel so much for him, good luck.
2007-03-27 07:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have there been changes in his actions? Do you believe that he may be doing something that he shouldn't? If so then maybe you are sensing something is wrong. If not then it may simply be that you are desperately afraid that you will lose him. And if you keep a good watch over him that he can't do anything wrong. You will only hurt your relationship and end up pushing him away. Talk to someone. Maybe a friend or a family member or maybe even a professional.
2007-03-27 07:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun i had this prob 2 an it suked i cudnt lk at him witout thinkin was he wantin sum1else. but trust me he wudnt be wit u if he wanted sum1 else there r always gonna be other women in his life but ur that person he chose an as its lasted 2 yrs so far u must be very speacial 2 him. jelousy is very unattractive and he`ll soon get bored of it even if he does love u. of course he`s gonna lk at other women i bet u do it 2 other men but it neva goes anywer. if u start to trust him u`ll enjoy ur relationship way more. try goin out wit ur m8s as well so its not just u an him all the time. x
2007-03-27 08:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by <3 rock an rachel<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very immature problem. You will probably grow out of it. Unless he has given you a reason to be jelous then don't worry about it. If yall have been together for 2 years then obviously you do not have anything to worry about. Sit back and relax and watch....if you stop being so jelous it just might make your relationship better. It did mine!!!! GOOD LUCK!!! But give up if your going to continue to be jelous!!!
2007-03-27 07:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on woman! He has to be able to go out with his mates or look at the television. What are you really afraid of? You will lose him if you can't stop your jealousy. Get some counseling.
2007-03-27 07:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by Q.A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its as easy as getting over it. Just let it go. It may make you uneasy for a little bit as you learn to deal it bother you. It really a useless emotion because you waste time, money, and you may even lose his respect if you trust him then it is an easy decision. If you dont then this will never go away
2007-03-27 07:15:32 · answer #11 · answered by holykrikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋