Me and my boyfriend been together for three years and things are going good now. You may be asking yourself what can be wrong, well the thing is a boy in my class came to me and we talked for awhile about somethings we have in common.After the talk we did a real quick kiss(eventhough there was more time on my hand). And than he says he likes me. So should I tell my boyfriend about the kiss or move on?
2007-03-27 07:06:14 · 29 answers · asked by Tara G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you kissed someone else , then your partner, then it is cheating, tell your boyfriend.
2007-03-27 07:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under no circumstances should you tell your boyfriend. It will only hurt him unnecessarily, and frankly, it is none of his business. It does however mean that you have a bit of thinking to do. Did you kiss this guy because you like him? If so, do you like him better than your boyfriend? Or did you kiss him for the excitement? And if so, would you prefer that excitement to the intimacy you have with your boyfriend?
You have to decide whether you actually want to stay wil your boyfriend, and this was a mistake, or whether this is an indication that you should move on. If you stay with him, i is probably better not to kiss other people.
But don't tell him. A kiss is really such a small thing when done toughtlessly. And it is much better for a guy to be told by someone else. THey can then get angry and confront you, which is better for their egos and they get over it quicker. If you tell them they have to either dump you immediately, being really hurt, or back down and forgive you, which is completely damaging to a guy's self-image, no matter how non-macho he is.
G'luck
2007-03-27 07:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should even worry about whether or not you should tell your boyfriend. That's the last thing you need to worry about. The first thing you need to do is take a good hard look at your relationship with this guy and yourself and figure out why you allowed this to happen in the first place. I also think you know that the kiss is cheating because just by you having to question it you know you did something wrong. I think you know what the right answer is and if you love your boyfriend you will do the right thing and sit down with him and discuss your relationship
2007-03-27 07:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by wickedsoxf4n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What counts as cheating is something that you should establish with your boyfriend. Each relationship sees different things as cheating. If your boyfriend feels that a kiss is cheating, I don't believe you should tell him. I know that goes against what alot of people say, because they feel its equal to a lie. However, the only thing that would come from you telling him is that you would feel better, and he would feel worse. That is not fair to him, this is your mistake.
I feel that if you intend to do it again, or do more in the future, you need to leave the relationship so it's not hurting someone else.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-27 07:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are kisses and there are kisses. On the one hand if the kiss didn't mean anything, and you don't tell your boyfriend and he finds out, he'll probably think it's more than it really is. If the kiss actually meant something to you though I'd keep it a secret and try to work out how you're feeling before you hurt your boyfriend.
2007-03-27 07:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if you feel guilty or think he deserves to know. I wouldn't consider that cheating unless you did it intentionally. It didn't last long. Did you want it to happen? Plan on letting it happen again? Then it would be cheating. Sometimes people do things without thinking. I guess my friends really quick on the lips sometimes, doesn't mean I'm cheating, I did it friendly, not romantic. Now obviously he meant it romantically but did you?
2007-03-27 07:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first year I was with my BF he didn't go out with me to clubs...I have no idea why...so...one night I was dancing with this guy and we really connected, then he kissed me....
My BF at the time was there and seperated us...
It was a mistake and I was drinking...so...did I tell my BF...NO
Then I told him that I was dancing with some guy and I almost did...but I let him know that if you dont' come out with me there will always be someone else that will dance with me.
FACT:
If a BF/GF has problems or doesn't accomplish the significant others wishes...KNOW that there is someone else that will do it for you!!!!!
I wouldn't tell him unless his friend saw you or....he saw you.
2007-03-27 07:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating if you consented. If he went in for the kiss but you didn't want it, then you should have told him NO. Otherwise, you did a bad thing and hurt your boyfriend. I would still tell him the truth. Honesty is best, even if he dumps you!
2007-03-27 07:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Hermione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how do you feel about this guy in your class? I still think you need to tell your boyfriend but if the kiss meant something maybe you should be re-evaluating your relationship. Maybe he won't think its a big deal, maybe he will but either way you owe to your bf to tell him.
2007-03-27 07:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course u should tell ur bf, just imagine if he finds out the other way. better off u tellin him.
and YES kissing another guy/girl tht is not ru bf/gf is considerin cheatin, kissing..flirting...samething!
and try not 2b 2close w.this boy that u kissed Nmore, or ull b gettin urself into more trouble.
2007-03-27 07:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Just_Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's cheating. If you have the need to go around kissing other guys you're not ready to be in a steady relationship.
2007-03-27 07:15:29 · answer #11 · answered by badkittie2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋