i have been seeing this guy for 3 months, but i feel like i am still in the hidden, we cannot be seen in the daylight and especially cannot tell his parents, as he is muslim and i am not, which i respect that, but why can't friends know about us? There are many girls around him that wants him, he told me that they all know abt our situation, but i doubt it, what can i do? i don't think i trust him, when i confront him, he just gets angry and say i am accusing him of doing something he hasn't done. i don't know what to do.
2007-03-27 07:00:38 · 18 answers · asked by just a girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really cared for you he would shout it from the rooftops a friend of mine married a white girl despite the fact his parents had arranged a marriage for him and he risked being ostracised by his family as he loved her
2007-03-27 07:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is some independent research on the Muslim religion. You need to know if this is something that you can live with, if your relationship with this guy moves on to a higher level. If not, you need to get out of it now. Ask him if he would help you understand how he feels, if he will explain why he acts that way. Don't be confrontational. You just want information so that you can understand how he feels! If he STILL gets angry and accusatory, then I am afraid that he is either hiding something, or somebody, from you, or that there are things that he just doesn't want you to know. Either way, it's not the way to start out a relationship, and I would end it right away.
2007-03-27 07:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ken S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having these strong feelings, and he gets angry when you try to talk about them, stop. Think. Is this the kind of person you want to share your life with? Because later down the road in a relationship, the decisions get harder and more serious. Don't you want your partner to be on your side? You need to consider strongly what YOU want in a relationship and don't compromise yourself. The right person will lift you up, not hide you away.
Be clear about what you feel you deserve and accept nothing less. If it results in a loss now, then that opens you to a greater gain in the future.
I wish for you happiness!
2007-03-27 07:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by muzic_girl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you for fun and will marry a Muslim girl his family approves of. If someone has to hide you, you can't trust them. By the way, you DON'T respect his religion if you're willing to sneak around his parents' back because you don't share his faith. If you DID respect his religion, you'd know that most Muslims don't date at all much less date outside their faith- which is why he can't tell his parents what he's doing (lying to them).
You can't trust a man who lies to his parents about the girl he's dating.
2007-03-27 07:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's hiding something because he doesn't want to be seen with you in public in the day. He probably has a whole other family. Get out now
2007-03-27 07:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that it must make you feel bad to be hidden from everyone! I wouldnt put up with it! There is definatly a reason for it and im sure its not a good one!
2007-03-27 07:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by MEESH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you accuse him of doing things he didn't, its probably your issues mostly
could be he is afraid you are doing things too
Like now, I like a girl who is very special to me, also, I have a wife, if I can get some maybe I should. Am I sposed to save it?
Yet when I think of her with somebody else, I DON'T like it. :(
even the idea of it
2007-03-27 07:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religious differences in relationships can be hard. You have to respect him. Although I do not think this relationship will work out, you have to have patience.
2007-03-27 07:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Paradiddle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where i live we call that a sideline ho or sideline business. which means that hes either embarrass to see with you in public but act all cool with you in public. thats a sideline business. get my point
2007-03-27 07:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Chi Town Playa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with my brother insdead,. he's not into silly religions like me and loves shopping......? Life made easier...........
2007-03-27 07:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋