my mother in law is raising her granddaughter as her own?

Question

my niece thinks that her real mother is actually her sister and her suppose to be grandmother is her mother, we need some advice on how to tell a 6 year old that her "sister" is actually her mother!!!!!! the real mother does not want no part in raising the girl as hers she already has 2 other children, that by the way they are telling her is her brother and sister. they are all thinking that they will never have to tell her the truth. i finally got my mother in law convinced that they should break the news while she's young, so maybe it won't be as hard. How do you explains a situation like this?? please help.

Answer 1

family counseling ; you are correct she needs to be told before an outsider tells her.

Answer 2

In a case like this, it is now or never, but be careful of the never, because things like this always seem to find a way to the surface. I have a very close friend that got pregnant in high school and her parents raised her son as their own and he honestly thought he was her sister until he was 18. He went to join the Navy and guess what they want? Birth certificates! He was totally blown away when he discovered that his "sister" was actually his mother and that they had all been lying to him his whole life. He still joined the Navy, but he has not talked to any of them since and that was several years ago...

Answer 3

In stead of convincing your mother in law into doing more damage to these kids maybe you should have a talk with your sister in law into using some protection and stop having children she has no interest in taking care of. Think you have your eye on the wrong issue.

Answer 4

Your mom in regulation needs to be gratefully for the grandchildren she has regardless of if or not they are boys or women. in case you want to objective for yet another infant then decide for it yet don’t do it for the reason which you want to grant MIL a granddaughter. in case you do have a woman and she or he treats the lads in a diverse way then you definately can refuse to have her around any of the babies. I examine of a pair that had a girl toddler and it grew to become into the 1st woman to be born on the Fathers area in like 8 generations. Who is conscious perhaps she will success out and finally get a great granddaughter.

Answer 5

It isn't your place to tell her, but I agree that she should be told. At 6 years old, I do not know if she would be able to comprehend it or not. Unfortunately, she should be told by the time she starts school as someone who may be privy to your family situation will spill the beans and she will be hurt that no one trusted her enough to tell her the truth.

Answer 6

You explain the truth to her in a way she can understand.
You could start by saying "Families are made up in lots of special ways" and then continue with something like "because your mommy couldn't take care of you, she brought you to her mommy and daddy when you were a little girl, so that you could have two parents that love you very much and could take care of you, and so that she could watch you grow up..."
Breaking news like this isn't easy, but it is much easier now that it would be later.

Answer 7

if the real mother wants no part in raising her own child, I see no reason. If you must, tell her now.

I would hate if my mom didn't want no part of me...I'd just call my grandmother "mom" like I always have.

Answer 8

I would recommend that you talk to a qualified child psychologist to see what is the best way to explain this and answer the questions that will arise. God Bless you and good luck.

Answer 9

I fail to see why you feel the need to tell her if her mother and grandmother prefer to keep it secret.