Do you think its right for my mom to babysit all the time? She thinks that if she doesn't that she'll lose the love from my brother and that one day she might need him and he won't help her. He's sometimes so mean to her too. That makes me so mad. She doesn't live near me so I can't see what's going on all the time but she cries alot.
2007-03-27 06:42:07 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
baby sit yes being mean no
2007-03-27 06:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by prower2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't right, but sometimes that is what mother's do. She loves her grandchildren even if your brother treats her badly.
When my mother got older and became ill, my brother and his wife STILL left their young children with her. They didn't care as long as they got rid of them. I had it a little easier than you as I lived close by and could go and help or at least clean up afterwards. My brother was not mean to my mother but leaving the children there so much was not a good thing to do. I will say his wife did it more often than he did.
I don't know what you will be able to do about it, I couldn't do anything and I was right there. I do feel your pain though.
2007-03-27 14:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a grown adult and should be able to stand up for herself to your brother, but it you see that he makes her sad a lot you could do a couple of things - 1st why not invite your mom to visit you for a little while (to get away from your brother and to have a nice visit with you) and 2 you could go visit your mom and see the situation for yourself to see if you feel you need to take any action. I don't know how old your mom is but remember there are laws against "elderly abuse" and your brother may also not be aware that he is being a cruel as you see it, sometimes a good talk clears the air and makes a person aware of what's going on and can allow him to takes steps to fix the problem Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-27 14:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I'm assuming that your mom babysits her son's kids? Well, she must want to. It's not easy to babysit all the time, but if your mom wants to, she feels she's fullfilling something in herself by doing it. Why your brother is so mean to her is what I'd like to know. She should never put up with that. Reasure her that she'll never be alone, that you are there if she ever needs you. Also, maybe you should give your bro. a call!
2007-03-27 13:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by gone2soon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story isn't very clear- you need to explain how old the brother is, if she is babysitting him or his kids or other kids, or what.
What really matters is your admission that she cries a lot. That's a sign that something needs to be done. She needs help, and your brother shouldn't hold her in this sort of emotional blackmail. If she is voluntarily babysitting your brother's kids all the time, there should be some sort of compensation, or at least gratitude, for her sacrifice. If yoru brother is taking advantage of her love, then she needs to back away and let him pursue his own destructive course, and take care of herself instead.
2007-03-27 13:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why she's babysitting. If she is babysitting so that the parents can work and she is ok with that arrangement, I don't see anything wrong with that.
Other than for work reasons, I don't think it is right for your mother to be babysitting so often that she is practically raising your brother's child. If it's once or twice a week for a few hours, or maybe once a week overnight, I don't think that is too often.
2007-03-27 13:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by amylynn25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is taking advantage of his mom. Obviously she is not happy and unfortunately your not close enough to visit her more often, if you were I'm sure your brother would be looking for a sitter. Visit and call her as often as possible, invite her to stay with you for the summer, this will give your brother time to find a new sitter.. GL =)
2007-03-27 13:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully she'll learn to put her foot down. Kinda sounds like my sister..she leaves 4 of her 7 kids with our mom and takes off...
grrrr...
tell your mom to stand up for herself...she can't be walked all over like that. If your brother gets mad, thats too bad. He's going to have to pay for daycare now.
2007-03-27 14:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy_Goosy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mother babysitting your brother, or babysitting for your brother??? Love has nothing to do with babysitting.. Sounds like he is taking advantage of her...
2007-03-27 14:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by Its me!!! :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand, who does she babysit? your brother's child? I think she needs to sit him down like she used to when he was a child and teach him how to treat people, especially his own mom with respect.
2007-03-27 13:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not right, your mom has raised her children and your brother should not abuse her good nature. And he certainly should not be ugly to her, ever. It is good for her to offer to help out when needed, but not to be the default all the time. She needs to be Grandma and not "babysitter" to the grandkids.
2007-03-27 13:58:51 · answer #11 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋