For Those Opposed To Gay Marriages?

Question

Could you please explain your views without using the bible?
I am not looking for the "God made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve" type answers.
I want to know how you feel same sex unions will have a direct bearing on you.

The reason I asked to leave the bible out of it is because not everyone in this country is Christian and I do not feel like we should fall under Christian rule.

Answer 1

i think that it should be up to the minister or priest that is preforming the creamony. Marriage is a religious institution and as such should be seperated from our government. the only control that the government should have over it should be a small fee for the marriage liscense. and that is mainly as a keeper of records.

just as many are worried that their church would be required to preform the ceramony, my church and my rights as a legal minister are infringed upon by restricting my right to decide if i wish to preform a wedding for a Gay couple.

first it was freedom for Black folk,

then the civil liberties movement.

then women's rights,

then Native American rights.

you know what right that none of these people have ever had to fight for after the civil liberties movement... the simple right to be married to somebody that they love. and durring the times where these rights were being fought for. the BIBLE was quoted just as much against them as it is being quoted against the Gay population today. people really need to quit using the BIBLE to justify their prejustice and bigotry.

Answer 2

You may disagree with this but that's the point of the question, right? So I'm giving my opinion.

A large purpose for marriage is the raising up of children. I believe that for society to be truly healthy, the natural roles that we were designed for should be used. Men are better at certain roles. Women are better at others. A recent study showed that men that took on the home duties such as raising the children and keeping up the home had more health related problems than men that left the home each day to provide for the family. Also women that worked for money had more health related problems than women who stayed home to raise the children and manage the home. Of course individually you must do what you feel is best for your family, but in general I think that men should be encouraged to be the SOLE provider for the family so his wife can stay at home to raise the children.

I also believe that variations on these inclinations, (a man who wants to stay at home or a woman that wants to go out and work) are because of the way they were raised. I see a strong connection between distant/non-existent fathers and a woman's desire to have a career. Disagree all you want, but I have evidence to support my position. Provide yours if you want.

I have never found a girl raised in a loving supportive complete family that was extremely driven to succeed in the business world. And I have never found a man raised the same environment that wanted to stay at home. So I am a strong proponent for family values. Homosexuality of course denies that a child should be raised by men AND women. And that is why I am against gay marriages.

It has nothing to do with what the Bible says about homosexualilty.

You may disagree with me and that's fine. I'm just answering your honest question with an honest answer. I hope you found it enlightening.

Answer 3

Society functions because of and starting with the family...

I ask you, if we allow same sex unions how does this support family? It doesn't support it, it breaks it down. If you say the functioning of society doesn't effect everyone then you're delusional.

Why should same sex unions get the same benefits as a real and meaningful marriage? They can't make children like those in a real marriage. If two men want to go at it that's their problem, they shouldn't get the benefits of a legal union.

Gay marriage mocks family.

If gay marriages are allowed you know it won't stop there...Polygamy, inter-species, one day marriages etc.

It affects me all the time when I have to explain the gross actions of some to little children.

If you believe in family then you are against gay unions.

Answer 4

I am not at all opposed to gay marriages and feel that "marriage" should be a matter of individual churches and civil unions should be the only thing that the state legislates.

However, to play devil's advocate, Scalia's dissent (characteristically whiny) in the Lawrence v. Texas case may be used:

Legislatures are permitted to legislate morality. Various state and national institutes, including the military, have enacted various anti-gay policies. Owens v. State said that a person had no constitutional right to sex outside of marriage. To fail to give these cases proper weight with stare decisis is to commit a legal error. To fail to allow states to legislate morality is to unconstitutionally expand federal powers.

Of course, Scalia's whole dissent rests on the (IMO misguided) assertion that homosexuality is a matter of morality, so if you disbelieve in that, his rubric falls apart entirely. I think it's crap myself (almost as lame as his comments in Roper v. Simmons), but it IS an argument absent theology and doesn't use the dumb and erroneous slippery slope argument of 'If we allow gays to marry, we'll have to allow pedophilia and bestiality!', so there you go.

Answer 5

Honestly, it just makes me cringe. To be perfectly fair, any public signs of affection (kissing, groping, making out) makes me cringe, no matter the orientation. I know a few married gay men. Just because I'm opposed to it doesn't mean I'm evil. I wish them well. I just won't vote on it becoming legal. That's my stance. I don't have to like everything in the world (just as you don't like everything in the world). Why try to change my mind because you want something to happen? I believe in marriage as a sacred union between a man and a woman.

I also don't want it legal and then have the courts try to force my church into doing the services. I'm worried that that will happen. With the way our society is (meaning that if you are against something, you're the evil bad guy, like how a few view me for not being for gay marriage), it's only a matter of time after the legalization of gay marriages (and I'm sure they will be legal in all 50 states someday) that churches here will feel the squeeze to cater to the whims of those wishing to marry. Priests (at least at my church) have the right to deny straight couples marriage. I do not want to see them forced to go against their religion and do what they feel is wrong because it's "politically correct". And, trust me, it will happen.

That is why I'm against it. Go ahead, call me a villian, but at least I stand firm in my belief and nothing you or anyone else says will ever budge me. Even my gay friends respect that about me.

Answer 6

Dear, a Christian bases their life on the word of God. Therefore, it doesn't make sense to ask a bible believing Christian why they believe what they do, asking them to leave God "out of it". God's word is a light to my path and a lamp to my feet. Do I always do what He asks me to? No, I don't. But it's my desire to be forgiven my failures and to walk according to what He says.

Answer 7

Well when our country started the founding fathers built the government and country up on Christian beliefs...they wanted everything to do with how are country was based was on Christian beliefs. So technically the Bible needs to be in this conversation. Also I don't believe in gay marriage...I don't judge gays in anyway but I know what the Bible tells me about the gay lifestyle and them being able to marry is against everything God teaches.

Answer 8

Marriage was instituted via the Bible. This is like saying "let's go to court, but you can't use established law cases in your argument". So your question is intentionally binding.

The problem with gay marriage is encroachment. Here a little, there a little. Ok, so now the encroachment is that all gays are these poor, persecuted folk, and any one against them is a rabid homophobe. So what is next on the timeline? Oh, here comes NAMBLA.

Answer 9

I think that the Bible is the only reason that people oppose it...go figure.

Answer 10

I tried this question once. I did not get one answer that explained how gay marriage would affect them PERSONALLY! I just got "God said" and biblical crap.


Yep sweetie, only 2 answers from those opposed and they did not answer your question at all.