Can you have two maids of honor? One of my Really good friends is helping me plan my wedding and I want her to be a maid of honor, but my sister would be hurt if she wasn't the maid of honor....but in her first wedding she didn't tell anyone but my grandma that she was getting married and now with her second guy she is gonna marry I REALLY don't think that she would even have me in the bridal party....she is totally upsessed with having friends and she would rather make them happy and have her boss as the maid of honor than me....and that is fine...it is he day, but I know she would be hurt if she wasn't my maid of honor....so can I have two maids of horor?
2007-03-27 06:37:04 · 29 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Will your sister or friend be married before your wedding? If so, you can have a matron of honor and a maid of honor. If not, then have two maids of honor--who cares?
Personally, I believe that it's your wedding and what you say goes. (As long as your fiance doesn't care!) If you want two maids of honor, go for it. If you feel funny having two, then have one.
If you think that your sister is not the right choice, then talk to her. Tell her that you love her and that you want her to be a part of your wedding party, but you don't feel that she's the right choice for the maid of honor role. Explain to her that you want your best friend to be your maid of honor, but you still want her to have an important role in your wedding as a bridesmaid and possibly to have a reading at your wedding or something like that.
I was the maid of honor in my best friend's wedding although she has a sister; her sister was a bridesmaid.
2007-03-27 10:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say absolutely! I'm having both a matron of honor and a maid of honor. One is an older, married co-worker, and the other is my best friend. Your wedding day should be about what you want. While planning my wedding i've discovered that some people will do anything to control my wedding. Therefore, do what you want, and if you want two maid of honors - have two maid of honors. Also, asking them to split the responsiblities seems to be working out good right now for me so that is also a consideration. Whatever you choose, congratulations & good luck.
Also, it kind of sounds like you're not really wanting to put her as your maid of honor. It seems as if you're just trying to make everyone else happy. It would be okay to have her as a regular bridesmaid if you feel like your friend should be your only maid of honor. But like I said, do what you want! It's your wedding, and if you're happy that's all that matters.
2007-03-27 08:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is simple, sit down with her, preferably in a public place, like a restraunt and talk with her about your wedding. Tell her your friend has been very involved so far and that you would like for her to be a in your wedding party. Maybe you could simplify this by only having two people on your side, your best friend and your sister. Tell her that you want to have your day be special and that your can only think of two people that are this important to you and that you are having "co-maids of honor" and that your girlfriend will stand by you and at the reception your sister will sit by you.
As for not being in her party, that will only be an issue if you make it one.
2007-03-27 06:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of two maids of honors in a wedding this fall. My sister-in-law also had 2 maid of honors. The only thing you have to be careful about is - which one of the two stands the closest to you during the ceremony? Which one gives a speech and if both who goes first. It can be a tricky situation but it can be done!
2007-03-27 09:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by KDW25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It fine to have 2 maids of honor. I have heard of people doing it all the time, like when the bride has 2 sisters, she can't pick between them. I plan of having 2 when I get married. One will be my sister the other my friend of 20 years.
2007-03-27 06:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by kaicey247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should choose who you want to be the maid of honor and have the other person as a regular bridesmaid. It sounds as if you are closer to your friend than your sister and if your sister would not include you in her wedding party are you sure you want to hurt a treasured friend in order to have your sister be happy even when it doesn't sound as if this is what you really want. Good luck and God Bless your marriage.
2007-03-27 07:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can call your bridesmaids what ever you want. But only one of them can sign the registry (which is why you have a maid of honor). Traditionally your sister would be in the wedding party but not the maid of honor.
Its your wedding, do what makes you happy or the whole thing will turn into a task and not something fun that symbolizes your love.
2007-03-27 06:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by duvalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have a maid of honor that wouldn't have you in the wedding party! That's very tacky of her to have just some friends and her boss in her wedding! Its very apparent she has no interest in your feeling or any one else in the family for that matter, she should be so lucky to be INVITED to you wedding. But in the end its your day and you can do whatever you want.
2007-03-27 06:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by dilligaff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one since being maid of honor is a title given to a trusted family member or friend. I know when I get married I am having all my best girlfriends as my maids of honor since I can't just pick one person since they're all special to me.
2007-03-27 07:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a maid and matron of honor, so it's no big deal if you want to have two.
Sounds to me though that you don't really want her to be MOH, but you'd rather just keep the peace in the family. On principle though, I'd probably not ask her to be the MOH. She sounds really immature, and you may end up hurting your friend's feelings if you put two radically different people on the same level.
2007-03-27 06:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋