I need some advice from any women about relationships!!!?

Question

My girlfriend has a lot of other guy friends and I don't know why but I sometimes get jealous of it. I feel secure in our relationship but I just don't ever want to lose her. Ever. She feels secure too, and assures me that I have nothing to worry about and that none of those guys that she is friends with could ever stand a chance with her. I believe her but there is something inside me that just keeps me feeling jealous. Any advice? Thank you!

Answer 1

She does need to respect your feeling about it though. You have to trust her and if its something that you can't handle then it needs to get resolved.

Answer 2

This has to do with you, not with her. People are mistrustful when they don't believe they are worth being treated well by someone else. Some jealousy is normal, and some fear of losing her is normal, but when you feel that way the next thought that should follow should be, "No problem, she loves me." Everyone has slight fears, because you never want to lose someone you love, but if it's an issue that stops you from doing things or from letting her live her life, it's too much. If that's the case, talk to a professional to learn techniques for getting rid of those feelings.

Best luck to you

Answer 3

If there's something inside of you that keeps you feeling jealous, then you are doubting the sincerity of what your girlfriend is telling you. Have you ever met any of the guys that she keeps in contact with? Do they know about you?

If you want this relationship to work with your girlfriend, then you must find a way to rid yourself of the jealousy that you have. If you can't find a way to do that, then you should end the relationship because you'll only cause yourself misery, wondering if she's being honest with you.

Answer 4

Don't let it bother you so much. A person can have friends and probably doesn't want to hear about it. Do you talk to other girls ever? If so its the same situation but just tell her how you feel and ask her about it. Make sure nothing is going on. Once you tell yourself somthing over and over you're going to beliveing yourself. All it will do is cause problems and you two will argue all the time. Stop it before it gets out of hand and just talk to her about it. If you two have a good relationship (which you make it sound like) then there will be no problem in talking about your problems.

~chick~

Answer 5

Clif, feeling jealousy in your situation is totally normal, it would be strange if you weren't. It sounds like you two are committed to each other and in love too.

I think the best solution is to tell her how you really feel about it. Tell her you trust her and love her, but hanging out with her guy friends doesn't make you feel comfortable.

If she still insists that it's fine and OK and there is nothing to be jealous of, then just take it easy and let her does what she wants.

Ask her what does she think about you going out with your girl friends? If she feels OK, give her a taste of her own medicine.

Answer 6

You say your secure but it sounds like your not or else you'd be fine with her having guy friends.
You shouldn't worry and don't press the issue about it. If you met her with a lot of guy friends then you should accept it. If she doesn't give you any reasons to be insecure or jelouse then you shouldn't have a problem.

Start to worry when you see things... =)

Or you could tell her how you feel, but in a calm way. Not crazy over protective way. =)
Good luck!

Answer 7

Hey relationship is to be taken as something that comes and goes, for the days when relationship was something very serious among two people are long gone dont be fooled love was love in the earlier times up to the seventies but not any more if you which to play a game of chance try your luck no hard feelings this is only a suggestion.
good luck.

Answer 8

I understand how you feel. If she is truly just friends with these guys, and she had them as friends BEFORE she met you, she should introduce you to them, have you all hang out so you can get to know them as friends too. If she's not doing this already, then ask her to. Explain how that will make you feel more secure in your standing in her life. If she's unwilling to do that, then I would think you have cause to worry. If she wants to keep you and make your relationship work, she'll include in you in with the guys. Good luck.

Answer 9

Being that I am in a a relationship and I have a ton of guys friends that are really close to me, I can tell you some advice.
Since its you and your girlfriend feel secure about it. You now probably still wonder how your her guy friends feel towards her so I would let them casually know how you feel about her and politely tell them not to mess with her. Once you have taken that up with them all your bases will be covered.

Answer 10

A little jealousy is actually normal. My advice to you would be to figure out when you are getting jealous. Is it when they call her or when they come to her house? What sparks the jealousy thing? If she spends time with these guy friends when you want to be with her, then, i would address it. You could turn it around on her and see how she would feel if you had a ton of hot girls that you were friends with. Do any of these guy friends of hers flirt and hit on her? Good things to think about.

Answer 11

It's natural to feel jealous, but if you love your girlfriend, you are just going to have to trust her. That's what a relationship is about, after all - trust. If she has assured you that you have nothing to worry about and if she's still with you, then she obviously loves you and only you.