Hi, I am a 24 year old male, I really like this 32 year old girl. she went out with me to a museum on Sunday (not a date, date) she was very shy and there was silences, but i made allowances for this. she is shy at college and its herself. The problem is that I am always the first to text her so she responds, if i text back she will not text back unless i text her another day, the textes i text her are not open or close questions so its not complustry she has to reply. I texted her today and she texted back i left it at that.
Its been sunday since i took her out do you think it would be good for me to call her tomorrow night about 7.45ish and ask wheather she would like to go and see a film and got for a meal next tuesday or wedensday evening or is that too far in advance and desperate? we are both off that week as we are on holiday. What if she says she busy? I seem to be doing the chasing or maybe i am too impatient...will this put her off? Help :) shes shy though! very!
2007-03-27 06:15:41 · 6 answers · asked by Lanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i text and ask her out or call her?
2007-03-27 06:27:45 · update #1
You should really call and ask her out.
2007-03-27 06:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she is 32, so you to are at different stages in life. she will expect you to do the chasing, it is a man s responsibility to chase the women, she will want to be respected, offered your jacket, given a flower, good old phone call rather then text pages, they are immature and inpersonable, its OK to occasionally text someone but you have to call just to say hi, with no reason. you need to ask her out you should have already called her to ask her out Sunday for a walk in the park or something simple. take her home after an hour tell her you'll call her later call her that night, then tell her you had a good time and would like to take her to a movie and dinner on Tuesday or Wednesday whatever is convenient for her. if she gives you a day then your in, if she makes an excuse tell her your open and your going to pass the ball into her court and let her call you when shes ready to go out. sorry if its too detailed but she probably is a little apprehensive about your age and wants to make sure your not too immature. girls24 and women 32 are different and raised in different times and don't do well being treated the same
2007-03-27 13:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by bambi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 and in a very similar situation. However, with me, I think I wa played and led on. I'm not going to contact him anymore. If you think she is attracted to you, and feels OK about the age difference, then ask her out. You will not be desperate. Ask her on the phone ... not text. Make it more personal. You can also tell a lot by the tone in someone's voice. If she says no, move on. If she calls you and asks you afterwards, it's your move. You are the one doing the cahsing and honestly, I really have to say that it's nice knowing men do it as well. 8 out of 10 times, it's the girl.
So, just call and ask her. Do not call after Wednesday for a Sat. date. Give her ample time to make plans with you. Otherwise there's a chance she has plans already.
Good luck!
Remember ... this tip is GOLD ... always think, "what do I have to lose??"
2007-03-27 13:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by J girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the longer the notice you give her, the more she'll worry and get nervous. I'd telephone her (don't text, it's so impersonal!!) and say how much you enjoyed her company at the museum. People love to be flattered and she's probably been worrying about what impression she gave you. Say that there's a film on this week that you'd love to see with her and you'd love her opinion on it, so would she like to join you? You haven't actually asked her on a date-date, more as a companion with you to the movies - she may be more relaxed with this.
She's clearly very shy so by keeping it friendly and relaxed you may get her to open up to you more and be more responsive to your company. Good luck, you sound like a nice chap and I'm impressed that you're very understanding of her lack of confidence.
2007-03-27 14:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shyness is terrible i used to be like that and the blokes always had to text me first before i text them ,it'll be just shyness yeah im sure,text her or even better call her and ask her she will prob say yeah if u had a good time at museum ,if she says she busy she may just genuinely be busy,best not to be too pushy good luck hope it goes well
2007-03-27 13:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy is suppose to chase a girl but the guy needs some thing to work with so take the next step. ask her out but if the date is a drag I would not call until she call you.
2007-03-27 13:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋