My husband and I were married by JP 7 years ago and now I would like to be married in our church. I am not planning some big affair, just something simple for our family and a few friends. My question is what is the proper route to go? What type of dress can I wear? We are not planning on having a big reception, maybe a BBQ at a hall, do I need to give favors? Should this wedding be treated like it is our first? When we went through the JP it was only our parents and us going to a restaurant, it was not made into a big deal. My problem is after being with this man a total of nine years I am still concerned about his judging family, I want to know that I did the right and proper thing. Thank You
2007-03-27 06:15:35 · 14 answers · asked by Crystal S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
stop caring what his judging family thinks. Do what makes you happy and be happy with it. If you want to wear a big white dress, then go for it. If you want to have a sit down dinner with favours, then go for it.
Do what makes you happy and screw everyone else!
2007-03-27 06:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by duvalicious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the same route as you. My husband and I will have been married six years this May. We've been together for nine years in July. We got married by a preacher and just my mom in attendance. I wish everyday we would have had a big nice wedding but I wanted to be married before I had our baby so we went this route. We are planning to renew the vows on our ten year to give us a few years to save a good enough amount of money up. I am going big. Not real big but nice big. This is the first and only wedding I plan on having so I want to make it feel like it's the day we did get married. I'm having a nice dress which you can find cheap at bridalonlinestore.com and favors and decorations and the whole nine yards. Go for it girl. You deserve it.
2007-03-27 06:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not wear anything too pompous or extravagant, it would be in poor taste, This is a vow renewal and not a wedding. No veil should be wear either as is a tradition meant for a maiden.
A simple Ivory or eggshell long dress or suit would do (no trail, or too much beading etc). You can wear flowers on your head or carry a small bouquet. A best man and a matron of honor is more than enough for a bridal party, although it's not really necesary. You can include your children as ring bearers and flowers girls...it will be really cute and appropiate.
You can host a simple reception, and no, you don't need to give any favours. You should not be expecting (or requesting!) any gifts since is your are already married and have an stablished home. So please, no registry.
A casual dinner and a semi-formal reception is appropiate for a vow renewal.
Good luck and congrats
2007-03-27 07:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your concern is his judging family, then don't do this wedding. It will be looked down upon by quite a few people; you had your wedding already, even if it was a tiny one. Having another seems greedy. The "right" thing is to be proud of the decision you made nine years ago, and not to try to "do it over" again to please others.
If you want to go ahead with it anyway, treat it as a vow renewal ceremony. Do not treat this wedding as your first, because it isn't and never could be. Wear a nice dress, but not a wedding dress. Favors are still nice, but they can be more informal and fun, like suckers or something.
2007-03-28 03:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't worry about his family. If your going to do this, do it for you and your husband. It can be treated somewhat like it is your first. You would call it something like a re-commitment ceremony. You can wear whatever you want. If your doing the traditional try wedding, wear a wedding dress. It can be a full dress or a beach type/evening gown dress. You can even wear a white or off white business type skirt or pants suite. A BBQ reception sounds great, that's what we are doing for our wedding in September. You don't have to give favors. That's totally up to you. Good Luck!
2007-03-27 06:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding can be as simple or as elegant as you choose. If it is just for close family and friends you can lean more towards the casual type wedding.
As far as the dress- you can wear white, or you can wear a nice fair colored dress of your choice. In terms of favors, those are not a required item at weddings, but if you do plan on giving something- i suggest something edible such as treats- those are almost always enjoyed and have less of a chance of being tossed away.
You have already been with this man for 9 years. No matter what his family thinks about you or the marriage you are already married and there is nothing they can do about it.
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Good luck!
2007-03-27 06:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are already married, and have already had your wedding. However, are you thinking of a vow renewal? If so, that would just be a blessing or ceremony at your church, or elsewhere, then have family and close friends to your home for dinner.. You would just wear a pretty dress. No favors. It is not a wedding, after all. Have fun, though!
2007-03-27 06:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you do what feels right to you and who cares what his family or your family or anyone thinks!! It is your day and no ones business...if they do not like it tell them you're sorry but it is what you and your boyfriend want and then don't discuss it again..and if they are that immature and make trouble for you after that then ask them not to come. Wear anything long but not white or any shade of white..like beige ect...a pale color..what's your favorite color? Or his? Wear that. Plain also nothing fancy. If it is like a BBQ after change into jeans then and a lacy pretty blouse. NO favors should be given out either. Don't spend money on anyone coming or anyone in your bridal party. Let them all buy what they need to wear. That will be their wedding gift to you two. Have a wonderful day!
2007-03-27 06:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please understand this is not a wedding but a vow renewal. But it is as just a solemn occasion as any wedding.
You can have it as lavish or as simple as you wish.
Most do not go out for a big poufy dress, but it's up to you. Are you going for white or color? Formal or tea length? What season?
I suggest your hubby wear a suit. You, something along the lines of this. But then if you're under 30 you can get by with a bit more than if you're 45. The bare one will probably not be appropriate for the sanctuary. I just like it. :)
http://www.cbslimited.com/bridesmaid-dresses/detail_mob_jovani-10453275
http://www.cbslimited.com/bridesmaid-dresses/detail_mob_jovani-166808375
http://www.cbslimited.com/bridesmaid-dresses/detail_mob_jovani-150228400
Ps. Favors are a waste even for first weddings.
2007-03-27 06:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding, you can do it however you want. You're worried about being judged, but no matter what you do someone will judge it. Who cares?? Do what makes you happy. If you don't want to give favors, don't give favors. Or do something cute, like cookies with the date written on them in frosting or something.
Whether you treat this like your first wedding or not, once the moment happens when you're saying your vows, no one will remember that it's not your first wedding.
This is about you and your husband being happy, so do it your way and brave out the critics.
Good luck!
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