People constantly ask me why I'm so quiet and that I should talk more. I honestly try to talk more but apparently it's never enough and eventually the guys move on. How am I supposed to just suddenly talk? I mean, I talk but sometimes I just don't know what to say and I am shy, it takes awhile for me to open up. How do I get people to understand it takes time? How do I become more outgoing?
2007-03-27 06:02:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can anwser this in confidence because I used to be you. All you have to do is stop caring what people think of you. Do exactly what you would do if no one was looking. It takes awhile to break out of your shyness, but slowly people will start noticing and provoking you to come out of you shell. Communication is more than just with words, you have you body language too. So stop worrying about rejection and get with a guy who will stick around just to find out what you are all about.
If you are just naturally reserved person, find a guy or a friend who is crazy and outgoing to bring you out faster.
2007-03-27 06:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by roll model 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes we want you to talk, most guys just seem to shy away from shy girls. I myself just yesterday was looking at a girl and then when I noticed that se was shy I left her alone. It was because I had no chase. Guys like a chase. Something that they can pursuit even though they KNOW that have no chance in HELL of getting what they want.
If you just say "hi" that will get their attention on you and make them more open to talking to you. Try it it works. Believe me because I myself am a shy person. But every once in a while I push myself to go up to a girl and ask "May I have your number?"
You just have to push yourself a little. Because if you dont then you will find yourself getting more and more shy over time. Well I think that I have written enough. If you wanna know more email me at: cadgrad2010@yahoo.com
2007-03-27 13:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by cadgrad2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We know you're thinking something in that mind of your and WANT to hear a little bit of it!
I use to be shy as well and I have found that the ability to listen has greatly helped me as time went on (derived from being shy) but just making statements off of other individual's conversations adds a lot of value to the conversation/relationship.
Start out small and focus on what other person/guy is talking about, and then you can build your skills from there :).
2007-03-27 13:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kory K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a friend, or someone, you can talk to for hours. Heck I used to be shy, look at me now, I'm announcing it to the world and I don't care.
2007-03-27 13:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by sillyshas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gua let them know how u feel about u talken to them and if they dont uderstand then go find somebody who do dont beat ur self up ova that trust it aint worth it theres somebody out there for ya
2007-03-27 13:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by tasashamascott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you are the single most perfect you that could have ever existed. You are the only you that has ever, and will ever exist. Let confidence in yourself make you outgoing.
2007-03-27 13:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Puggz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think so much prior to engaging in conversation, as you may talk yourself out of speaking for the fear you may embarass yourself or look stupid. Just put your thoughts out there. You will gain confidence.
Good luck!!!
2007-03-27 13:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by Summerfest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the problem but i talk 2. 3 people now i did it on my own
2007-03-27 13:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by o3 z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile..a lot...and be positive. Dont automatically assume the worst. When you see someone just say hi, and be friendly, chances are, they'll do the same, and you have a new aqquantice, who might just become a BFF...=] Just be yourself =]
2007-03-27 13:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles :] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself...with a little confidence!! No one REALLY knows what to say ALL of the time. Just dont stress about it too hard, just speak whats on your mind.. If they like it-fine, if not......NEXT!!!!
2007-03-27 13:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋