been dating my bf for almost 4 mnths... he treats me well...we've been spending all weekends together since we met, he buys me stuff, takes me places, calls me regularly and also asked me to be part of his new business.. it's legal and he spent his own money on it..... the last time i saw him was this sunday and i wasn't feeling good, so when i called him today i asked why he didn't call to see if i was okay and he said "you're not a baby". then he went on to say that i shoould enjoy my freedom and let him enjoy his cuz we don't have to call eachother every single day! he said we all need some freedom.... i was confused by this because he's the one that calls me mostly and keeps a tab on me.. so isnt he contradicting himself???.. what do u think he means???
2007-03-27 05:56:32 · 7 answers · asked by nizo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he needs some space. If he does, you should give him some. Instead of asking this question here you can ask him what he meant by what he said.
2007-03-27 06:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by an 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he has as much a clue about your relationship as you do. He could be realizing for the first time that he's moving to fast and not reacting to it that well. He could be feeling that simply because he left you alone for a day to get some rest you are questioning his intentions towards you. Your into a relationship that is riding out a difificult stage - call, dont call, whats it all mean. I've recently been there and it can be hell & you might even loose sleep - depends on the true feelings each of share (or don't). Take a chance and cut the guy some slack - just don't call for a bit and don't always answer the phone when he calls - test your waters. This way you can do some digging of your own and find out the security of your relationship. Listen to reason without throwing gut instinct out the window though dear - if you start getting a feeling that being part of a business and weeknds mostly is starting be more of a way of keeping you "in your place" - be for warned and do what is on YOUR best interest!
2007-03-27 13:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, been there done that. He doesn't know what he wants.
What YOU should be doing is having a life for yourself that doesn't include him. Now, I'm not talking about doing things behind his back or anything, but having a life, going out with your girlfriends and such is actually a good thing. Haivng your own identity and not being a damsel in distress so to speak is actually what you need to do. Guys get bored when a woman becomes boring. Always keep yourself interesting.
2007-03-27 13:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one might hurt...
but...
He does a lot, what do you do? A relationship involves 2 people not just one. I mean, yeah, he should have called, but he can't do everything and after a while dudes get worn down doing all the work.
Sorry I'm just going off of half an argument
2007-03-27 13:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know when a guy first sees the lady he loves who is not yet his, he would go all out to make her his. now when he is sure the lady has also fallen for him and has agreed to be his he cuts down on so many things but that does not mean he does not love the lady anymore. unfortunately for the lady it is then that she has also fallen in great love and expects to be loved the more but the guy has also had it at the moment. so dont be confused he still loves you.
2007-03-27 13:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Genevieve D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,he's not that interested.
2007-03-27 13:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sally B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was very very busy.. thats all
2007-03-27 13:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋