My mate is getting married, but they've stated in their invitation cards that they'd rather have money donations to their honeymoon, instead of gifts. Isn't this a little rude and a bit greedy...especially since they've already booked and paid for their honeymoon!!!
I feel if they didn't want what people would bring, then they should just ask for nothing. What do you think?
2007-03-27 05:52:03 · 29 answers · asked by Nothing's Forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes it is very rude to ask directly for money on an invitation.
2007-03-27 11:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by tashag2805 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude for the couple to ask for money instead of gifts, but putting that in the invitation IS tacky. There is not supposed to be any mention of gifts or registries in a wedding invitation (shower invitations or engagement party invitations are more appropriate for this) because it shouldn't be expected for someone to give a gift. Etiquette calls for the couple to let their attendants and family know where the couple is registered and what they would like as gifts.
2007-03-27 08:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by R E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it's fine for them to ask for money instead of gifts, they never should have put it on the invites. Putting it on the Invites is very rude and greedy. A wedding invite is suppose to invite someone to the wedding, not ask them for gifts or money. If I got an invite that said something like that on it, I wouldn't even attend the wedding.
2007-03-27 06:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's rude. I had a friend do that once and on purpose I bought a gift because I thought it was tacky.
You don't ask someone for a gift and then tell them what to give. You don't.
If your guests ask, then you can say "we'd prefer money to start our life off with, but we'll appreciate anything that you can afford to give or wish to give!"
It's tacky to state, especially on the invitation, "money only."
2007-03-27 10:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its very rude. A invitation should never imply that the people inviting EXPECT a gift, let alone tell you what to give them. I would probably get them a card and a book on etiquette.
2007-03-27 06:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it is not rude, it is fairly common when couples who have been living on their own for a long time get married. They usually already have everything they need and any gifts they get will just be duplicates of what they already have. Your going to spend money on a gift they dont need so why not give them the amount of money you were going to spend in cash instead, then they can use it for something they really need or want. I mean what do you think they will do with all the gifts they get? If they dont need it or already have it, they are just going to return it for a cash refund anyway, why not save them the trouble. Weddings and honeymoons are expensive anymore and I am sure cash will be put to much better use than a couple dozen unwanted gifts.
2007-03-27 06:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I think that is tacky. Just don't put anything in your invitations. Alot of people would assume that you are not registered and will give money. If they get a gift they don't like they can take it back and get the money for it.
2007-03-27 06:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by mars1021 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the need to pay off bills, but yes it is rude. You see, you are affixing an actual price tag to your gift as opposed to say, buying a gift that you really can't tell the price of, even from registries.
2007-03-27 06:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The should be no mention of gifts or cash or registries in a wedding invitation. The couple could mention to their family and attendants that cash would be preferred so that the word gets around.
2007-03-27 05:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
People decide to get married and suddenly their common sense and manners fly right out the window. Asking for money donations is tacky, tacky, tacky.
2007-03-27 06:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋