question. i have 4 girls on my side, my boyfriend wants either 3 or 5 guys on his side. i also have a jr. bridesmaid, but i want her to sit down when she gets to the top of the aisle. so i want to ask my co -worker who ive been working with since june to be my 5th because by the time i have the wedding, we would have worked together for almost 2 years. im afaird she might be a litle shocked by the offer, since we dont hang out much other than work. once we went wedding dress shopping together because she is also getting married this summer. should i do it, or should i have an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, or should my boyfriend not have one of his guys in the wedding?
2007-03-27 05:50:09 · 8 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
im afaird the odd number will look weird in pictures
2007-03-27 05:54:17 · update #1
my boyfriend has 3 for sure, his two good friends and my brother, but for the forth, he wants his friend from college but he also wants his other friend from college who the two guys are best friends with each other and one might be offended if the other is in the wedding and vice versa.
2007-03-27 05:59:38 · update #2
I had 4 BMs and my husband had 5 GMs on his side and it worked out fine. Don't worry about an odd numnber
Oh, and chances are if you're not that close with your co-worker, she may feel weird if you ask her to be in your wedding, especially if you don't hang out a lot outside of work. Think about it - there are 4 girls that are close to the bride and 1 that's more of a casual acquaintance. It would be quite awkward for your co-worker to be in that situation.
Plus she has the expense and time commitment to her own wedding plans, so this is probably not a good time to be in someone else's wedding.
2007-03-27 05:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First to address your friend at work: I think it would be perfectly fine to ask her. You may want to state it, that your feelings will not be hurt what so ever should she feel, for any reason, she can't or doesn't want to participate. I believe that what ever her feelings are or the ability for her to take part in your wedding, she would feel honored that you thought of her.
Second: There are no set rules that must be followed as to the even numbers of the wedding party. I'm not sure what you have in mind, but say there is one more Groomsmen than Bridesmaids. If you have having the Bridesmaids and Groomsmen walk to the front together, you might consider having only the Best man enter the front, with the Groom before the ceremony. Thus, one extra person would already be up front. What I'm trying to state, is there are creative ways to solve the "problem" of the imbalance. Also, as long as there is not a large imbalance, say 6 on one side and 3 on another it will not look ackward visually. - Rev. Betsy Raye
2007-03-27 13:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Betsy G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, how would you feel if you were only in a wedding to make the sides even so the pictures wouldn't look weird. I was in a wedding with six girls and three boys. The photographer will know how to have everyone stand so that it does not look out of place. Don't ask your coworker. Being in a wedding takes a lot of money and time. Something she might not be willing to give, but will feel like she has to. Don't put her in that situation.
2007-03-27 14:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odd number will not look wierd in pictures, because the jr. bridesmaid will be in them; she makes the fifth. And if you're worried about having an even number of people standing up there, then have her stand too. Or, have them all sit, which is what I usually see anyway. I wouldn't ask your coworker, especially not since you only want her to fill a spot.
2007-03-27 12:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would opt to have your groom only have 4 on his side. It's not fair to have somebody be in the wedding just to fill a spot.
2007-03-27 12:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an odd number and it looked fine. The photographer lined them up so itdidn't look bad at all.
2007-03-27 13:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by mars1021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You defintley need an equal amount of people on both sides....You should ask her and see if she will be apart of the wedding, the worst that can happen is she can say no. but, she might just say yes.....
Good Luck..........
2007-03-27 13:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's best that the sides be even.
2007-03-27 14:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋