I have been in a relationship with this young man for over 2 years. When I met him he let me know upfront that he had had been separated for a little over a year and he wasn't ready to get into a serious relationship yet. 2 1/2 years later, our relationship has become serious and still, no divorce. Yet he tells me that doesn't want us to remain "boyfriend and girlfriend" for more than 3 to years. His ex-wife has moved on with her boyfriend. His ex and her new boyfriend also have a child together. Also, his ex's new boyfriend is asking the same questions that I am. When are you getting a divorce. They have been together almost 3 years. When approach him with this issue he gets on the defensive. He tells me that he wants all of our finances to be in order and to make sure that we both have job security. I feel that they are excuses. I also feel that we can't make any serious moves (such as marriage & buying a house) until those divorce papers are signed. Am I right or wrong?
2007-03-27 05:49:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they are both in happy relationships and everything, then a divorce should be no big deal. Obviously they both want it since both are in new relationships and it doesn't sound like they are fighting over anything so they should get one attorney together and have the papers filed. The divorce can be granted fairly quickly as long as they are not going to worry about dividing their belongings and property (it sounds like that has already been done). I feel you are completely in the right to wonder about this, maybe the 4 of you should sit down together and discuss it as rational adults and come to an agreeable solution.
2007-03-27 05:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey this guy is giving you every excuse he can think of maybe its more than fear of comitment again though ... does this guy & his "ex" have any children? if not then I see no reason he should be trying to hold onto this relationship with her... I think your 100% right & he needs to choose you or her & if he chooses you then he has to let her go 100% no ties not nothing ( unless there is a child involved in which case he has to have contact with her )
2007-03-27 06:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by AC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very right. They stay married to protect them selves from the relationship they are in!
2007-03-27 05:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right.
2007-03-27 05:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋