She wasn't my favorite person in the world. She caused many family problems and I honestly don't have many good memories of her. Of course I feel bad for my husband as he will miss her very much. It was uncomfortable when everyone else was crying and offering sympathy to me and I didn't feel much grief.
2007-03-27 05:43:59 · 17 answers · asked by sunnyca 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Please don't assume we didn't get along. I saw her frequently, included her in all family events and had her over to dinner at least once a week. I treated her very well out of respect for my husband. I was sad she passed away but I just couldn't cry. That's what I feel bad about.
2007-03-27 06:08:13 · update #1
No it isn't bad. You can't make yourself feel something that isn't there. I think you've done the right things - having been respectful of her in life and there for her son after her death. Take it easy on yourself.
2007-03-27 06:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it really isn't that all bad if you didn't cry. You don't have to cry if someone passes. It's just a way some people can let go any hurt or pain they feel towards a person. Only thing that would be bad if you were laughing. But anyway you are in no wrong.
2007-03-27 12:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Salima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as long as you didn't celebrate when she died, you're okay. I'm assuming that it wasn't a secret that you and she did not get along... so if you carried on like you did care, you'd be a big fake. You do care and the fact that you feel bad for your husband shows that.
2007-03-27 12:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by with2kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you were not close to her , does't mean that her children wern't, Its a shame that you did know her closer. I have a daughter-in-law like her, and I am very close to my children, except her. My other 1st daughter - in - law is fantastic. The second one just does not how to relate to people and no one can feel close to her. it's not just me it's everyone, I feel sorry that her parent taught her to be that way.
So if you don't feel any grief, feel sorry for her children, especially your husband, he will really be hurting.
2007-03-27 12:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by chez006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way you feel is the way you feel. It's not wrong. Your job is to help your husband through his grief, and be supportive for him and his family.
2007-03-27 12:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by cybereagle07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's NOT bad! People have their own ways of showing sympathy... I mean it's still better than faking a cry, right? Don't worry about it... good luck!
2007-03-27 13:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lamwitchgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can say that about another woman. Mother-in-law or not she was female, and you know they are always victims of men. You better get back to the Oprah show and say penance to her. For good measure tune into the View and maybe you'll get back your "womanhood".
2007-03-27 12:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe its bad. Its not like you hoped something was going to happen t her .All you need to do is just comfort your husband and be there for him..
2007-03-27 12:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by That Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Just let your husband know that you care she died, and you are sorry, but it wasnt sad enough for you to cry.
If you didnt like her, and she caused a lot of problems, thats her fault, not yours.
2007-03-27 12:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mother in laws usually aren´t farvourite people..I would feel for my husband but that would be it..
2007-03-27 12:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by iluvbarcelona2327 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋