How does this work, I have a wedding coming up, a guest at the wedding I have a restraining on?

Question

We're both invited to the same wedding.. we're both guests.. lets put it that way

Answer 1

You do have the option of not attending yourself.

Answer 2

You'll want to read the wording of your restraining order very carefully....for instance...how many feet distance does it allow for...it may also state recommendations or allowances for public places. I'd also contact the authorities and see what they recommend. You may ask that them or your attorney if you have one send a letter to the other party advising that you will allow an exception to the restraining order that will allow you to both be present at the same event but that you have no verbal or physical contact. ...that way, should there be a problem, they already kinda have a heads up! This is about the best advice I can give not knowing any more details on why the order was issued! Of course, if you were the one to issue the order on them, I think you may have preference...and maybe able to request that they not attend, but then you might be stirring up something with the bride and/or groom and that can get sticky...the only other option if non of these suit you..is not going, but if you're both mature I think there will be a way to work it all out..after all you can't stay in your house forever. Maybe they've grown up a bit!

Answer 3

I think you are both guests at the same wedding, not members of the wedding party?

If so, if you are really afraid of this person and badly want to avoid them, do not attend. If both of you were invited, were the hosts aware of the situation? If not, I don't know what can be done, if they feel strongly, maybe they will commit a faux pas and uninvite the other person so you can attend. Or they may just tell you to either attend and deal, or don't attend. But I would be upfront with the hosts of the wedding about the whole thing, why you won't be there, if that is your decision.

Answer 4

If this person was invited and welcomed by you, you can have the restraining order removed. The only way that person can get in trouble for being around you with a restraining order is if you call the police on them and tell the cops you are being harrassed. If the guest was invited by someone else, be sure to talk to that person and let them know what's going on. If you don't mind them being there, just let it be known that it's okay: AS LONG AS THAT PERSON BEHAVES THEMSELVES. If you do not want that person there : Remember it's YOUR wedding. People will cater to your wants and needs.

Answer 5

I won't ask what everyone else has asked because I know you didn't invite this person. Even if this person is not a threat to you they still can not come. Violate the restraining order=they go to jail. Not something I would want on my wedding day. Tell the person that invited them that there is a restraining order against whats their name and have them tell the person they cannot attend. It is just down right tacky to invite someone to your wedding when they have never discussed it with you and the groom first.

Answer 6

As far as I am aware, if you have a restraining order against a person and you show up where that person is, knowing full well that the person will be there, then that person will not get in trouble for this; it would be considered entrapment otherwise.

Basically, what happens is up to you. The police won't know unless you call them. You could call the bride and insist that she modify her guest list to accomodate you. Or you could go and try to call the police, and ruin their reception/wedding, if you see this other person. Or you could take the high road and either not go to the wedding, or go and stay clear of this person, and leave if you become uncomfortable.

Answer 7

Is it your wedding--you say you have a wedding coming up, but it doesn't say its your wedding per se. Are you a guest, a caterer, are you the bride?

If you have a restraining order on one of the guests--those usually mean there's only a specific amount of feet they can't be near you. That should be okay unless its like 1500 feet....well a 1500 foot restraining order isn't practical.

Answer 8

Ok, what?!?!?! Lets see if I'm understanding you...

You have a wedding coming up and you have a restraining order on a guest that will also be at the wedding. couldnt you have just worded it that way. So stay away from that guest.

Answer 9

Were they invited before you put the restraining order on them??? If so have a friend or relative contact them and tell them not to show up at the wedding because if they do the authorities will be called. Or even tell them you will have a police officer posted at the wedding. That should avert them if they were thinking something stupid.
Or you could maybe even have a police officer contact them to tell them to stay away; if they would do it that would be better.

Answer 10

If you RSVP, then the other person should be informed that you will be in attendance so he doesn't show up. If he already RSVP, then you should not attend.

But this is not about you, is about the bride and the groom.

My advice to you us to tell the bride about your situation and tell her that you appretiate her invitation, but for your own safety and to avoid a sticky situation with another guest, you are going to have to decline the invitation. Tell her that unless the other person is not in attendance, you will not be able to come.

Tell her that you are not requesting her to un-invite the guest, but that you don't want to ruin the wedding with this with this drama, and therefore, you are going to be there by heart only.

Good luck

Answer 11

If you invite them to the wedding, then they are not in violation of the restraining order. The only way a restraining order is enforced is if the person violates it and you report it to the police, so unless you call the police and tell them he is there, they wont know and nothing will happen.