i love my bf but i don't want to make a mistake and do something wrong so please help me!
2007-03-27 05:38:39 · 13 answers · asked by brittany bear! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound young, and just because your boyfriend wants a BJ, I hope you make your own decision and do something like this when you are ready and when your partner respects you, not when he asks for it so he can brag to his friends. I was 21 before I did it and it is not something I do with every guy I date.
Anyway, if you are serious here are some tips I use to give my boyfriend a bl0wjob. So far, he hasn't had any complaints. And, by the way, what's good for the gander is good for the goose. I hope your boyfriend takes care of you before you move on to something as intimate as a BJ. Slow down, you are still young.
The very first thing, and the very biggest thing, is to be into it. Sounds like you are so it shouldn't be a problem. Enjoy what you are doing, and be excited about it. Everyone wants to think that the things that turn them on turn other people on too. The wrong way would be to give the guy the idea that you don’t like to do it, then he feels like it is bad, or dirty, and no one likes that kind of judgment.
Just before you start, put on a fresh coat of lipstick, let your guy watch you do this. Have his pants down by his ankles with him ready to go, and then stop to put on lipstick. The anticipation kills him.
Get down on your knees in front of him, whether he is standing or sitting – unless you are in a car or something that would prevent that. Every guy LOVES seeing their girl on her knees for them. It is a much bigger turn on than him laying down with you on top.
Get him warmed up by rubbing him over and between your boobs, while you tell him how excited you are to be doing what you are doing and how much you are looking forward to what is coming next. You can also use your hair brushed lightly over him.
I start with his balls. Softly run your nails over them. Lick them, and suck one and then the other into your mouth and flick your tongue over it... once when you are getting started, and then later when you need to take a bit of a break from the “main event;” be gentle... Keep them cupped in your hand after you have moved on to other things, and softly kneed them, be gentle, and don’t tug.
I am sure that a soft tongue feels wonderful on a genital. Lick up and down, and make sure to lick the underside, and top of the tip... get everything nice and wet before it even goes inside your mouth.
When you are ready to take it inside the first time, close your lips softly, and push them against him so that he pushes your lips open around him as he slides inside. It reminds him of pushing in other lips.
As you get started on the main event, ask him to hold your hair out of your face. This serves two purposes – first it keeps your hair out of your face, and mouth (always a good thing) and it gives him permission to put his hands on your head and provide you with some guidance (which most guys are unfortunately too timid to provide without permission). Be prepared that he will start to guide your head with his hands – and that is a good thing, he knows what he likes best – and that as he becomes more and more excited, he will provide more and more guidance... follow his lead unless it gets painful for you. TRUST me – guys – all guys, even the ones who don’t want to, LOVE that.
When you take him into your mouth, hold him inside and hum softly while he is pressed into your throat.
Try to keep eye contact with your guy. It won’t be possible all of the time, but look up at him as much as is convenient for you.
There is always the question about should I swallow when he cums. Swallowing is the difference between a happy guy and a guy who brags to his friends. It is in your mouth already, it might as well slip down your throat. Personally that is my favorite part, it feels so sexy, warm, and so yummy – and guys LOVE it. Of course – they sometimes like to go other places as well – so be prepared for that, on your face, or boobs – but wherever it ends up smile, giggle and enjoy it. Remember to at least act like it is as exciting to you as it is for him. Nothing will ruin a good buzz like judgment, so don’t ruin it at this point after all this work.
Of course – like anything else make sure that you are playing safely. Use a condom if you don’t know that the guy is clean. On the plus side, there is NO way that you can get pregnant from it.
2007-03-27 12:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now see... Thats what Im talking about. A Woman willing to please her bf and trying to be the best girl for him alive!
Ask him what he likes if anything, but u can never go wrong with a bj while j*cking him off at the same time!!! Make it work!
2007-03-27 12:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thinkt he best thing you can do is ask HIM what he likes. Each man is different and likes different things.
If you love him, don't be afraid to talk to him.
Most relationships are hurt my lack of communication...including in the bedroom.
I seriously do not know why women have such a difficult time asking men what they want, and telling men what they want...it's easy peasy baby.
2007-03-27 12:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by tragedys_kiss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the courgage to ask here, ask him to help you while doing it. You will find out (as you mature) that it is different for everyone. The best for one man is not always the best for another.
2007-03-27 12:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use plenty of saliva and dont bite.lol
Personally i'd rather pleasure my girlfriend instead of them doing me the favour, but hey everyones different, and if he's not an a**hole he wont judge you whether you were good at it or not. dont worry about making a mistake, he'll guide you but be careful you can still get std's from oral sex.
2007-03-27 12:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by nightdreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you want to go thru with this ?its not to late to say no! you dont have to dont let yourself get pressured into something you are clearly not ready to do ! take it from a guy wait awhile longer before you do this for him you may soon find out he isnt the right one for you !
2007-03-27 12:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need more help than with a bj....if u can say stuff like that for everybody to see something is wrong...
2007-03-27 12:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no teeth, cause that hurts like hell.
remember a lot of spit and no hands unless it is small.
have fun and good luck
and you have to swallow what comes out he will love you for life when you do that.
2007-03-27 12:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Michael F 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just use ur hands and mouth in sync and throw some tongue in there... just do not use ur teeth if u really need help get a hold of some porn.. its kinda gross but helps...
2007-03-27 12:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Shane B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow and wet (be careful with the teeth)!!
2007-03-27 12:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋