I am 3 months pregnant and the father of the baby, so far, has been really two-faced. When I'm around he's a good person, but when I'm not around he's completely different. He's been drinking a lot and from what I hear he's still doing the drugs he says he quit. He does have quite a bit of parfinelia. People are now saying he's shooting it up and I really don't believe that but I don't know what to believe anymore because he has lied to me a lot. If he's going to be on drugs and constantly drinking then I do not want him around my child. I would like to get the law involved but I have to have proof. How can I prove that he has "stuff" in his possession? I've tried talking to him and the police and it doesnt do any good. I'm getting quite desperate. Thank you.
2007-03-27 05:37:07 · 5 answers · asked by Manda 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
ok well first off just cuz he does drugs dosent mean he'll be a bad father... maybe havin hes baby around will help me stop he'll reaslize dat he has too change hes way of bein for him. i did drugs n im a wonderful mother to my child. i didnt do it wen i was pregnant but i did once my son grew... i would do it at night wen he was asleep or wen he would stay a night at my mother-in-laws. so just cuz he does drugs DOES NOT mean he will be a BAD father... the drinkin... well does he drink to da point dat he really drunk or drinks a few beers just alil buzz n dats it? if he be gettin drunk n get violent or somethin while drunk i would leave him but u should watch how he acts wen hes on he **** n den u make da judgement... n da evidence just tell the court dat he has a history of abusin drugs n dat u want to see if ders any way to do him a drug test or buy one on ur own... n da proof go into hes house n take a few pics if u want to show dat its in hes possesion or unless u can take a pic of him doin it dat would be strongest evidence u can get bsides him tellin da cops yea i have it wanna see... i wish da best.
2007-03-27 07:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by mperez637 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is bad enough that you are calling the police the best thing for you to do is get away from that group of people and start a new live away from him. He will not have anything to offer you or your child if he is doing drugs and yes if he was clean he would not need "stuff". There is only one reason to have that. I raised my son alone for about the same reason and he did very well in life and now he has a teen. His father paid child support and my son never has met him. I say get away from him!
2007-03-27 12:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get away from him. I don't see why you would involve the law. I guess you could make an annonymous tip, but why? Can't you just stay away from the guy. If he doesn't care about the welfare of his child now, he won't care when you leave him either.
It all just depends on what you are ready for. Are you ready for the commitment of standing by him if/when he cleans up? That's a pretty hard task and not a very wise one given your pregnant.
It's this simple: You come first. You can't take care of a baby if you aren't taking care of yourself. You can't/shouldn't take care of yourself, a baby and a grown man.
2007-03-27 13:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just leave him. Once a liar always a liar, people who use drugs regularly are rarely trustworthy. Get away from the dude.
2007-03-27 12:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by sisterchristian5 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the authorities. The sooner he is gone, the safer you and the baby will be.
2007-03-27 12:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by RN_and_mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋