I have been dating this wonderfully awesome guy for a while now and a couple nights ago he told me he thinks he is falling in love with me, I said I feel the same way about him too. I love him in my heart but have not said "I love you" to him yet.
I am really scared to open myself up to him in that way, as much as I want to. I have had some bad experiences with men in the past and as we all know history is doomed to repeat itself.
How do I get over feeling like this? Being so scared to love and let myself be loved. He is everything I could have ever asked for in a man and I want to be able to move forward and build a life with him. Any advice is appreciated. :)
2007-03-27 05:34:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You follow your heart but with your eyes wide open.
Love and trust are such powerful factors in a relationship. You may not know when it's there but you will surely know when it's missing.
My advice is: tell your partner what's important to you--especially when it comes to that feeling of "in love"--and make as few assumptions as possible while at the same time going with what you feel is right. I think you'll do just fine. Good luck!
2007-03-27 06:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sin™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic advice I could give you to help you get over what has happened in the past because everyone takes their own amount of time. But I will say this: you need to realize that just because someone else treated you bad and made mistakes and made you feel like crap, this guy shouldn't have to try to make up for that. If he truly is a great guy and hasn't done anything so far to make you not trust him, then give him a chance to prove to you that he's not like all the others that have hurt you in the past. If you don't give him a chance then you may never know what could have happened.
2007-03-27 12:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn.....understand that sometimes the road to love is broken ,but at the end lies the one that ...will be the one , understand that even when this happened you must have a place in your heart where to put those lovely hurtful memories and be thankful , the search of love sometimes is bumpy ,see inside yourself wht you need? not what you want ...only , or wish , cry if that releases some sadness but , being serene ,watch the stars one night , and feel alive again so next day you have hope ,and with renewed looks and wisdom ,and respect for yourself and real love , keep ahead in life , love will find the way to you .... never take desicions under fear , jealousy , or anger , .... just love .
2007-03-27 12:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by robertman30s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had an extremly bad experience too. My ex used to curse at me a lot and I was scared to go out there again because I didn't want to get hurt.
But if he's everything you said you wanted, and in your heart you feel something very special between you two, then maybe it means it's the right choice to open up and let your world be more open to him now.
Good luck in your relationship!
2007-03-27 12:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you had some bad experiences, are you going to let those stand in the way the rest of your life. We've all had bad experiences, you just have to move on. Maybe if you're certain there's going to be a bad experience, you've already doomed the relationship. So maybe you should just move on.
2007-03-27 12:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should always let your feelings be known, if it pushes him away hes not all the man you thought he was, without the history you have the future would not be what it is, and at this point sounds like your pretty happy so good thing whatever happened in the past happened, cause now you found a good one.best to find out now rather then later. good luck
2007-03-27 12:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by bambi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know its strange i came across this question. i just posted one yesterday asking what i should do about my boyfriend. i'm in love with him but he wont say it to me. and let me just say that i realize he's probably feeling the same way you are. it hurts to no extent that he wont let me in. he's been hurt in the past, as i see you are. but i tell him, everyone has been hurt. you cant name one person who doesnt have a story about heartbreak and pain. its the only way we can appreciate when we find the one we should be with. if he has said to you that he is already falling in love, then you must be an amazing girl. no one is saying you need to say you love him just yet. i realize i have been pressuring my bf to say it, and i'm wrong for doing that. you come around when you're ready. everyone's scared, love is risky. but its worth it too.
2007-03-27 12:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by seksigirlie23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im guessing you have been hurt alot and protecting your self is good but when you close up too much you watch your life go by and never take any risks as the saying goes with great risks comes great rewards go for it if it doesnt work out you have not wasted anything you tryed and thats what life is about
2007-03-27 12:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lina K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let yourself go again you may end up hurt but how are you to live life all cooped up asking us questions ? yes your heart may get stopmed on again but that is the only way you will find out if he is truely your one true love .now go for it!
2007-03-27 12:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by gands4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! i almost fel like i wrote this! all i can tell you (from my own experience) is trust yourself. i opened up to my boyfriend and we are happy as ever. we live together and are actually planning our life together. so if you know you love him, let him know...before he gives up.
2007-03-27 12:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by ashleigh_ace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋