im having my cousin be one of my bridesmaids, shes 16 and her little 11 year old sister really really wants to be in the wedding. i was thinking of making her a jr. bridesmaid, but i need someone to carry the train on my dress. can a jr. bridesmaid do this? or is it a little demeaning? also, should she stand with the bridesmaid at the front, or sit down as soon as she gets to the front?
2007-03-27 05:30:34 · 7 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As a photographer I would suggest that you not have her carry your train. Your train should flow behind you and make a statement as you walk down the aisle and be glorious in your pictures. A child behind you would distract from that moment when your father gives you over to your new husband. Include her by letting her work the guest book table and hand out programs, let her wear a matching color dress and may bee get her a corsage to wear. Find special jobs for her to do or just let her be a Jr bridesmaid and walk out in the processional after the other bridesmaids, but before you. When you enter that room it is all about you!
2007-03-27 05:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by tracelightly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have her be a junior bridesmaid. She can wear a dress the same color as the girls, just more appropriate to her age group.
Personally, I am having my "niece" (my aunt's daughter who is more like a niece than a cousin) as a junior bridesmaid (she will be 12 at my wedding). Her role will be to wear the same color dress as the rest of the girls. She won't be walking down the aisle, she will just be in photos with us and get to spend time with us. That way, she feels involved without me having to make her a bridesmaid. My aunt (her mom, who is 9 1/2 years older than me) did the same thing for me at her wedding. I didn't have the title of "junior bridesmaid," but i was only 15 (I had just turned 15) and I wore the same color as the bridesmaids, rode in the limo with them, got ready with them, was in the pictures, but didn't walk down the aisle or carry a bouquet.
I don't understand why you need someone to carry your train--doesn't that defeat the purpose of the train?
Also, it's up to you whether she stands with the girls or just sits down when she gets to the front. Either choice is fine. Most people just have the junior bridesmaids sit down in the front once they've walked up the aisle.
2007-03-27 10:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her about carrying your train first. You never know, she may want to do it. If you just make her a Jr. bridesmaid, you can have her stand up or sit down. If you don't care, let it be her choice. She'll feel even more important if she gets to help you make some of these decisions. Good Luck!
2007-03-27 06:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All those things are up to you since it's your wedding. You could ask her if she would like to carry the train, make it sound like an honor, and she should be happy to help. As far as sitting or standing with the rest of the bridesmaids, that is your preference. I've been to weddings both ways.
2007-03-27 05:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's demeaning to have her carry the train. I would have her sit when she gets up to the front. Don't just make a spot for her though if you really don't want her in the wedding.
2007-03-27 05:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want anyone to carry your train. You want it to glide behind you. She can be a Jr Bridesmaid. Usually the limo driver fluffs it out right before you go down.
2007-03-27 05:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is your choice. It is your day to get what you want not the girls. But if YOU want her to be in the wedding then let her. You deserve to get the wedding that you dream. I hope you make the right choice!
Lots of Love,
Kendall
2007-03-27 06:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋