My best Friend keeps telling me that he loves me and not in just a friend way but i don't want to say it back until i know i love him too.
2007-03-27 05:30:11 · 37 answers · asked by emm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every time i talk to him i smile and i think about him at school or any time i'm not doing anything. Sometimes i even get distraced thinking about him and forget what's going on around me. Every time i see him my stomach ties in knots and it's hard to speak.
2007-03-27 05:40:38 · update #1
He's my ex and when he broke up with me i cried for hours, but when my 2nd ex broke up with me i didn't even have the thought of crying. I don't know if that says anything about me loving him.
2007-03-27 05:47:03 · update #2
When ever you feel like saying to him and knowing that this is really what you want to say that's when you know you love him.
2007-03-27 05:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by candy8 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's wise to not say it back until you trul know that you feel the same way. And just because you're not ready to say it too doesn't make you less of a person in this relationship. It sounds like he kind of "sprang it" on you, and you're still a little shocked. Tell him you want to go out on an official date with him, and see what happens. If you like it, tell him, and have him take you out again. Sooner or later, you will either know that you are excited about the new direction this relationship is taking, or you'll know that you aren't, and then you need to be honest, and tell him so. Don't pressure yourself "to be in love" right away. That's not normal, nor human. It took him time to get where he is. You deserve the same kind of courtesy. It's sounds like a cliche - but it's true - only time will tell.
2007-03-27 05:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Aims4usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from experience.... loving someone and BEING in love are two different things. So how do you know.. after the attraction is over and all the giddy feelings die down, do you still smile inside and look forward to seeing this person even after you been together a long time, or is it just ho hum. In answering your question. Do you get upset when others flirt with your friend and find yourself jealous? I would say if you do then your feelings are more than just a friendship. Good luck!
2007-03-27 05:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by bugjuice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the look of your question, I'm guessing you're under the age of 18. If I'm wrong then I'm sorry. If it's true, then he may be at a similar age. He may not know if he really love you. He may be saying it for the fact that it's always good to hear that you are loved by someone. The phrase itself may weaken you and have you questioning if you really love him back. Advice is to not say it at all since you are already questioning your love. Think of it this way, if your mother was to say she loves you, wouldn't you say you love her back without any delay? What I'm trying to say is that your love with your mom is not the same, but if you really love him you will know instantly. Take your time and good luck!
2007-03-27 05:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kkuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say yes to this questions then is a YES you like him, otherwise....is no!
Are you always thinking of him? In anytime anywhere?
In everything you look, do you think of him? i.e. you look at a fish tank and you remember immediately that he doesn't like eating fish at all...?
Do you get hungry when you think about him?
Do you want to spend more time with him?
Does your heart Pump really fast when your hands touch together?
After your hands touch, did you though how his skin is soft?
Did you notice that once he did his hair different, than any other day?
Do you talk about how cute he is with your girl friends or how his jokes are funny?
Do you laugh when you are with him? Even from the silliest jokes?
Do you have a butterfly in the stomach every time he approaches you?
If you have said yes to every question...then i would say you're fallen for him!
2007-03-27 05:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by lil_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking this question, then you're not in love with him. I can't really explain how you know, You just know when you are. Sometimes it just kinda hits you, and you're like "Whoa! I really love this guy!". You love everything about him, you accept all his faults and differences, you respect him for who he is (even if you don't agree with some opinions, but hey, that's what makes him, well, him!), you enjoy the time you spend together, but yet respect yourself enough to stay as your own individual. Some people say their heart "flutters" when they think of the person, and they would call it love. But trust me hun, when you love him, you'll know.
2007-03-27 05:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you love someone when that person is all you can think about. When they walk into a room its like you quit breathing for a second. You get butterflys in your stomach. When there just a friend your just comfortable around them. You will know when you love someone your heart will tell you. give it a chance date him for a little while and find out if you really truley love him. You will know. your the only one who will be able to tell.
2007-03-27 05:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your heart feels peace and joy , when there's no doubt , no fear , no need to hide , no insane jealousy , no tears of pain , when you become better person by the influence of that love , when you progress in your life instead of loosing things and weight , when you get wiser due to that love and take desicions based on love , when you understand that love can also be an attitude ,when you look with both eyes ,twice ,hear with both ears twice before saying yes , but being sure this definitely is more than attraction or looks . you love when ... you really love.
2007-03-27 05:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by robertman30s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys gotta spend more time together if you want to feel the same way about him. If you really want to spend time with him in a way that best friends don't. Get close and personal with him as you would someone you love. If you want to love him don't force your love and let him know that your love will grow in time.
2007-03-27 05:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by Salima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ahd a similar problem. i knew it was love when i realized that i didnt want to be with anyone but him ever again. i still get butterflies in my stomache when i kiss him (and this is about 10 months later!). i wasnt sure if it was love so i asked my friends and family and they all told me the same thing "you can't really explain it, you just know" so i'll pass that on to you. i know it's not very helpful, but trust me...if you love him, you will know.
2007-03-27 05:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by ashleigh_ace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't. Love is not just a word that can be thrown around so easily. It has alot of meaning behind it. Make sure that feelings are behind it when you do say it, b/c if not...alot of people will get hurt.
2007-03-27 05:37:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋