I've recently started a guy at work and today, early in the morning, some girl called me and asked who I was and why my number was on her phone bill. She told me that she lives with her boyfriend and two young children and apparently her boyfriend is the guy I have been dating! I lied to her and told her that nothing was going on because I was shocked and trying to figure out what the hell was going on...should I call her back and let her know what's really going on or just confront this guy and make him confess or just leave everything alone and let her deal with it???
2007-03-27 05:24:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course I am going to end everything with him! He lied to me and his girlfriend. I would never want to be with someone like that. I was just so shocked to find out he has a girlfriend and children! He never told me. I didn't want to say anything to her because of the shock and because I didn't want to mess up her life...I knew nothing about this. I've never had this happen before. I'm only 20 and this guy is in his 30's.
2007-03-27 05:40:51 · update #1
My best advice to you is to ask yourself if you were in her shoes what would you want?
Personally I would call the girl and tell her EVERYTHING. She needs to know what her man is all about. If she chooses to stay with him then she can only blame herself. You also need to confront him and end all contact with him.
If he did it to her, he'll do it to you.
2007-03-27 05:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by teacher101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say something to the guy. I definitely wouldn't call the girl back, cuz you don't want to make her hate you for something you didn't know anything about. She'll blame you just as much as him, and in this case it seems like you had no idea. Tell the guy to take a hike and suggest that he learn how to treat women with RESPECT!!
2007-03-27 12:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront the guy but leave it at that... he will be shamed and scared... Now if you want to continue the relationship thats up top you... BUT don't tell his G/F either way... If they do have young children, you don't want to mess up a home and take their father away...
Plus if you two were just "Dating" then its not worth it...
I guess the real question is is if your gonna keep the dating going?... if so, just make yourself happy and get what you can out of it to make you happy...
2007-03-27 12:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Coach White 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That girl deserves to know what a low life her husband or boyfriend is. Call her back and tell her everything...if you don't he'll probably keep on dating other women behind his wife's back...and plus this guy has 2 kids?! Confront him and then confront her
2007-03-27 12:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the guy you're seeing first and ask him what's going on. It's always possible that the other woman is a jealous ex who's lying to you about her relationship with him. At that point, once you've heard his side, trust your gut. If it feels like there's more going on with this other woman than he's told you about, then cut the cord. It's not worth it.
2007-03-27 12:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should definitely call the girl back and let her know whats really going on. just think of it this way...if you were in her position, what would you want her to do? nobody deserves to be cheated on or especially left in the dark about it! and besides, its not your fault the guy is a pig...he didnt tell you!
2007-03-27 12:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by ashleigh_ace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. wouldn't you want to know if you were her? If she is the type that likes girls and already knows then that's a different story but I'm sure she would want to know when her man was with the other woman
2007-03-27 12:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweetinjection 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , you are wreaking thier life, they have kids, and they dont need that, if you what to do the right thing , then break it off with him, cause he shouldn't have you or his girlfriend, think if his girlfriend was you, how would you feel.
2007-03-27 12:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't waste my time doing either, it will hurt him more to never learn what happened but if you must then i would confront him and tell him. don't mess with him anymore
2007-03-27 12:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her whats going on. Then she'll let her bf have it. And stop trying to see him unless you want to look like a homewrecker.
2007-03-27 12:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋