Say you met someone through an online dating service, exchanged a lot of e-mails and had numerous phone conversations, a pic exchange and you had a great time together when you finally met, and almost right after you met they went back with their Ex. Then say they became available again and you go out with them..as friends of course, and have a good time…but this time you are forced because of some circumstances to tell them how you feel about them and they respond by saying they are in a “catch 22”...and then three days later go back to their Ex for the 3rd time. In your opinion why the “catch 22” answer? Why don’t they just say I love my Ex and I am not interested in you that way???
2007-03-27 05:21:57 · 4 answers · asked by Suzanne 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because he was trying to decide what he was going to do and was doing his decision making on your dime. He was in no real position to begin a new relationship with you in the first place. His ex has been in the wings the whole time and he's been trying to get her back that whole time. That is why one of the first questions you ask is "how long have you been single" if it's been less than 6 months (for a relationship not resulting in marriage) you steer clear - if there was a marriage, of any length, and it's been less than 1 year, you steer clear. Seriously, you can stay friends and keep it casual but it takes "at least" 6 months to a year for an old relationship to truly be "old" and over.. Sorry that happened to you, hopefully you'll learn from this and can move on. Good luck.
2007-03-27 06:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They obviously have a lot of internal confusion and don't want to say they love their ex - but they probably have a lot of great experiences with the ex that are tugging at her to continue to be with him. Unfortunately a lot of relationships are cyclical - he may be a great guy, then slowly turn into a jerk, then back to a great guy - just when she's about to leave him, and so she keeps going back. Until she can actually be free of that old relationship - it just won't work out with you and her. I'm sorry, bud-
2007-03-27 05:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a player to me, and someone that you may want to end all contact with, unless you are okay with the back and forth confusion.
2007-03-27 05:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by michy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusion
2007-03-27 05:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋