Friend's wife made fun of pregnant wife!?

Question

My wife is 8 months pregnant with our first child and has enjoyed the pregnancy. I think she looks absolutely beautiful. Before pregnancy she weighed around 115 lbs, She exercises and is always at the gym. But she has put on about 60 lbs in the past 8 months, which I have no problem with. We were recently at a friend’s birthday . I heard my newlywed friend’s wife say “ She ballooned and she looks like that dress is going to explode, its practically bursting!. Boy she looks like sh*t!!! She spent the night laughing every time she was near us. I am very close with my friend and was very shocked when I heard his wife make this comment. We have always been very gracious to them, and have taken them away on vacation and out to dinner many times. How do I handle this? I was about to punch her

Answer 1

It is difficult situation b/c you don't want to be rude. At the same time, you simply MUST say something. This woman is extremely offensive to your wife at a very difficult time for her--she already feels that she ballooned up and is huge. She is normally 115 and for the first time is 190, she is incredibly insecure as is. You simply cannot let that behavior go on.

As this couple is your friend, the next time it happens I would recommend politely saying to her "I know you are meaning it as a joke, and don't mean to upset her but pregnant women are rather sensitive. Some of your comments are coming across as cruel and I know you would never wish to be perceived by others like that."

This way you are standing up for your wife and still letting the immature brat know that you aren't angry with her for her comments, but that she must cease immediately. However, if she is not terribly embarrassed and makes any more comments like that, I would definitely reconsider vacations and dinner with them in the future.

Answer 2

Yours is a difficult question. You sound like a lovely couple. Your friends wife sounds like a inmature boob. The part about saying your wife looks like **** is unforgivable. The other comments were crass, insulting and rude are but sadly common things that rude or stupid people sometimes say to pregnant women. Often time those comments come from a person that has never been pregnant or been close to a lady how has been. It happens cause they don't know what to say or they are just making what they think is a harmless comment.Just remember the comments and exclude this couple from any further social occasions or vacations. Once your baby is born your lives and social habits will change drastically at that time just use your limited social time for real friends. If they ever approach you about why they never get to see you anymore just say we are "real busy"