I really love this guy and I have felt this way for a couple of years now. I know that he has feelings for me, but at the moment he is dating someone and he is not the type to dump someone to go out with someone else, no matter how much he likes the other person. What should I do? I am so confused.
2007-03-27 05:14:47 · 6 answers · asked by blacknessforeverandever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel your hurt and pain. It is common, yet so strong when it's in your life. But, you really need to let go of this for now.
It's hard to do, but it's the healthiest thing you can do. You have put your life on hold for too long. It's easy to get stuck in life, but when it's within your control you need to seize your life and move it forward.
You must not interfere with his other relationship. I realize that you know it doesn't fit him, but it's his responsibility as an independent person to figure out his life. We get into problems when we start telling others how to be. We have to respect the decisions others make ....... Just as we would ask them to respect our potentially bad desicions.
The harsh ( and I don't mean to be harsh, but we need to look at things as they are and not as we want them to be) reality is he isn't with you. This sounds simple and obvious. But we as people are often fond of saying that actions are louder than words. maybe he can't bring himself to hurt you, maybe he thinks you are too frail. Maybe he's doesn't care enough about you to be truthful. Actually, none of this matters in terms of the details, big picture is that he has not behaved in a way that is respectful, meaning, if he genuinely thought it would be great to have a relationship with you, he would behave differently.
Another perspective is, what if you were the girl? Would it be fair or right for someone else to muscle in on you? You need to just let this work itself out, but LIVE!!!
You are a wonderful human full of a unique personality that makes you special. Many others will appreciate you and love you just as you love yourself. Give your self a shot in life and know that you're going to make hundreds of errors and have hundreds of opportunities. But you have to let it happen.
Life isn't about sitting around waiting for that one single opportunity - there are opportunities you're missing. Another way to look at this is like a 50 question math test. You've gotten to the 10th question and your stuck - instead of moving on and getting the rest of the questions right, you're investing the remaining time in class on the one quesiton.
Have a big cry, talk with a girlfriend, believe in yourself and resolve to be strong, positve and know there is plenty of love for you in the world!!!
2007-03-27 05:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by notasperfectasyou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was listening to a radio station and this problem came up that was very similar to yours. It's a pretty complex situation when your going through it, but when you break it down, he is with someone else. Don't try to take him away from her or make any moves on him. (I don't think you'd do that anyways.) Just be there for him when he needs you. :) Sorry if this wasn't helpful. T_T
2007-03-27 05:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Eziah 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You say he isn't the type to dump someone to see someone else? That sounds more like he isn't interested in dumping his current person.
2007-03-27 05:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by jessie1985 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone, he's with someone , and you are going to cause problems, that you may not get out of easy, and you will have drama, Just find someone who is single.
2007-03-27 05:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is best to move on with your life without him..well,making him your man later on...if,he leaves her...i am sure his previous relationship will make you think wrongly of him....you might not love him as much as you want too...cause,your mind is giving you negative thoughts if he is having sex with her again...plus,you won't concentrate to what ever your doing at home or work...
2007-03-27 05:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by virgo7134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is what you do....befriend the girl friend start a bi-sexual relationship with her and him. the n guess what? you have him. and therefore you have the best of both worlds, and he has every mans fantasy 3some hehehehe
2007-03-27 05:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetinjection 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋