I don't agree with having to pay for everything in a wedding i was asked to be in. Everything that is picked out is so expensive and I don't think I should have to pay for it. If a bride asks you to be in her wedding, she should pay for it.
2007-03-27 04:57:03 · 22 answers · asked by S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't want to pay for things, graciously decline the bride's request for you to be a bridesmaid.
Don't you think the couple is going through enough of an expense?
Although I will say that ALL brides should be conscious of the expense their BMs will have to participate in the wedding and shouldn't make unreasonable demands like expensive gowns and hair styles. If they want to do these things, the bride should be willing to foot the bill.
2007-03-27 05:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Silver_Stars 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I ran into the same problem with a wedding I was asked to be in. Customarily the bridesmaids/maid of honor pay for their own gowns, accessories, transportation, lodging , additional food, hair etc. However, if you cannot afford it, you can speak to the bride about the financial costs and many brides will pitch in for the cost of the dress (or cover it) as part of the gift usually given to the bridal party.
When you accept a position like this, you need to be aware of all the costs because I think a lot of us dont realize just how expensive it could be. I ended up dropping out of the wedding party primarily due to cost after I spoke with the bride and she wasn't financially able to cover me as well.
2007-03-27 15:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by DizzyD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Incorrect. When you accept the honor, you accept the responsibilities as well. Part of the responsibility is paying for your own dress. If you can't afford it, that's a different issue. Talk to the bride and tell her that you can't afford the dress. She may offer to pay for at least part of it. But, the brides DOES NOT pay for the bridesmaids dresses. The bride already is paying for her wedding including food, drinks, a band/DJ, a reception hall, flowers, a ceremony location, a photographer, favors, an officiant, her dress, and gifts for the members of her wedding party--including you. If you feel that strongly about paying for the dress, then you're not going to want to do anything else that the bride needs--such as planning and/or paying for her bridal shower and bachelorette party, as well as doing WHATEVER she needs on her wedding day, and I mean whatever--even if it means standing behind a toilet and holding up her gown as she pees (and yes, I have done this for more than one of my friends). If you feel you can't accept the responsibility, politely decline the honor.
But, a simple answer to a simple question--the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses.
2007-03-27 17:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, bridesmaids are typically asked to pay for their own expenses. Gracious brides, however, usually give their bridesmaids a small gift (usually jewelry to wear at the wedding) or they host a bridesmaid luncheon.
When I got married, I paid for my bridesmaids to have their hair and makeup done, but they paid for their own dresses and shoes. I also hosted a bridesmaid tea and gave them personalized jewelry boxes with jewelry inside.
However, I was in a wedding five years ago that I didn't even get a "thank you," let alone a gift, so don't go in expecting anything. It's the price we pay for friendship!
2007-03-27 23:43:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kathryn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride has picked out something unusually expensive, then she does indeed need to chip in and take care of at least part of it. Some cultures dictate that the bridesmaids pick up the cost of their own dress; others wouldn't dream of asking the attendants to pay for things. If it's too expensive, then I would tell the bride that it's a hardship for you; if you can't be up-front with a friend, who CAN you tell?
2007-03-27 12:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bridesmaids pay if the dress is a modest price - less than 100. If it is more, and the bride is unwavering in having specific, expensive dresses, then she pays.
You really should have asked questions before you agreed to be an attendant.
2007-03-27 14:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They pay for their own outfits unless the bride and groom's budget can fit them in.
If you said yes to being a bridesmaid and don't agree to paying for things, you should talk with the bride and back out before its too late.
2007-03-27 13:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must not be married. This is obvious. If you do not agree simply decline to be in the bridal party. It is choice, you don't have to do it. She asked you because you are close to her. With all of the expenses of the wedding, do you honestly expect her to pay for everything for you?
2007-03-27 14:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry, but when I accept the invitation to be part of a wedding, I understand I am liable for the costs, including gown, shoes, bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc.
Some brides will pay for the gown, but those gals are few and far between.
2007-03-27 12:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are supposed to pay for it. The bride should be considerate but remember how much she has to pay for. She probably can't afford to pay for all of those dresses. Just be a good friend and buy the dress. Gah lee.
2007-03-27 17:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋